Exactly this. The only person who knew was Mr Medusa and that's only because my consultant advised me to take someone with me when I was called back after having biopsies.
I didn't want anyone knowing. Not even my nieces and nephews, because they'd already lost their mum to the same thing, i didn't want my family and friends worrying about something that wasn't there's to worry about. I also walked around thinking I was invincible and nothing and no one could hurt me- my ignorance and cockiness came back to bite me, i also didn't want people treating me any differently, I didn't want anyone's sympathy. Like you say, it was MY fight, no one else's.... We told very few people. - Until we were forced to.
What I didn't do is go around telling everyone and anyone. (Especially strangers on an app) The world is full of vile and cruel people and tiktok is full of those types of people. Cockerpoo has now opened herself up to the trolls of the app who will use it against her. Unfortunately that's her own doing. She's been on the app long enough to know better. I'm not for one second saying she deserves posts with headstones and people wishing her the worst, because to me that's extremely sick and twisted, but at the same time she didn't care about Lisa Marie. Which I only caught the back end of (as i was away at the time) someone's trauma shouldn't be mocked, and neither should someone's Cancer, and when you challenge people on an app to find you, they will and they have.
Personally I don't feel comfortable speaking about someone else's diagnosis, but that's just me. Maybe it's because it's too close to home and It just doesn't sit right with me, there's no denying that what she did was fish so I understand the hate and the backlash she's received.
I said yesterday she should stay off the app and concentrate on herself, especially given her circumstances. Yet she's in boxes again getting upset about petty s when her main priority should be herself, her family and her diagnosis. Not a bunch of strangers on an app, who probably don't even give a do about her. So right now I'm finding it difficult to understand her thought process and what she's trying to achieve.
I missed most of yesterday as I down with a migraine, @Mrs Doubtfire 👵🏼 going in Reds box is throwing yourself to the vermin of the app, they are literally a pack of wolves who don't have the plums to have a one on one conversation, but from what I have read you did well and held your own. I hope you're ok. 🩵
Sorry, its a long read.
ffs if you’re being given advice by someone that fits wedding dresses and knows how they are supposed to look take it 
️ she is I bet the dress is horrific