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SleepyLion · Jun 5, 2024

Standupifyouhateaimee said:
So sorry to read this too
It's so hard isn't it, like you feel the person is there in body but not the person they were. I think we all feel so guilty but in reality they are adults and when you don't normally have that kind of drama, you have to put your own family first don't you.
Can't believe it was special brew with your mum too but saying that it has such a high alcohol volume, so I can see why. Your mum has done great for 27yrs sober/recovery and it's good you are close now but the trauma never really goes does it.
I remember being sent to the shop for 4 cans and fags many a time God I must of been no older than 5 crazy that kids were allowed to buy those and even go to the shop alone!!
I always try and see a funny side of things (gets me through) and I always laugh at 5yr old me when I think of my first trip to the shop for her cigarettes and alcohol. I was head deep in the freezer, feet off the ground looking for "lamb"bert and Butlers thought she was sending me for the lamb for dinner

Anyway love to you too and ditto if you ever need to chat

It really is so hard. I use to say my mum was one of 3 mums - I’d have the passed out drunk on the bed mum, the mum the morning after who was pale, throwing up and trying to get sober mum and I have the mum I have now who is sober all the days and how I wanted her to be when I was a kid.

However, even 27 years on - when I go to the house and I waiting for them to answer the door I always scan her face to see if she been drinking. That is something I won’t ever be able to stop doing sadly.

I also can be quite critical of things in the house so housework I get quite anal about and I think that stems from the childhood as well as in mum could be passed out on bed upstairs and house a mess but we use to have clean uniforms and give the pretendence that everything is fine when behind closed doors it wasn’t like that at all.

Most kids love a scavenger hunt and mine was looking for those gold cans and pouring them down the sink - they would be everywhere.

I try hard to give my kids a better childhood than I had. I definitely think my childhood has made me stronger and instilled in me about working hard and putting family first always.

Here if ever need to talk it is so bloody hard but we’ve survived it (just!) lovey

Standupifyouhateaimee · Jun 5, 2024

SleepyLion said:
It really is so hard. I use to say my mum was one of 3 mums - I’d have the passed out drunk on the bed mum, the mum the morning after who was pale, throwing up and trying to get sober mum and I have the mum I have now who is sober all the days and how I wanted her to be when I was a kid.

However, even 27 years on - when I go to the house and I waiting for them to answer the door I always scan her face to see if she been drinking. That is something I won’t ever be able to stop doing sadly.

I also can be quite critical of things in the house so housework I get quite anal about and I think that stems from the childhood as well as in mum could be passed out on bed upstairs and house a mess but we use to have clean uniforms and give the pretendence that everything is fine when behind closed doors it wasn’t like that at all.

Most kids love a scavenger hunt and mine was looking for those gold cans and pouring them down the sink - they would be everywhere.

I try hard to give my kids a better childhood than I had. I definitely think my childhood has made me stronger and instilled in me about working hard and putting family first always.

Here if ever need to talk it is so bloody hard but we’ve survived it (just!) lovey

Just that description of the gold cans and running around finding them, I so identify with

my mum use to have periods of not starting her day with a can and I think that made her think she didn't have a problem! But then when she was on it, it was drinking until passed out then wake up and repeat.

The fact that you are a great mum who works hard to give them the childhood that is further away from yours

is amazing because so many repeat the cycle, look at shameless!

We are stronger for our childhoods, all of us can be so proud of ourselves for coming through the other side

I really hope your mum continues to be strong

Xxxx

Deleted member 1840 · Jun 5, 2024

allaboardthebirkeybike said:
Has @RosieJo been on? Or did she mention going away anyone know? Not seen her either. In my mind I'm guessing she's gone into meltdown mode because it's Swift month and she needs to rethink her outfits decisions because Panther wasn't a fan Hope you're OK if you see this

I mean she wasn't a fan of mine so I'll be still wearing it with knobs on because I'm that b

Heeeey! Im ok! Lol Panther can do one! We shall shimmer and fing love it!

allaboardthebirkeybike · Jun 5, 2024

RosieJo said:
Heeeey! Im ok! Lol Panther can do one! We shall shimmer and fing love it!

Tell a friend to tell a friend she's baaaacckk

Haha yessss @RosieJo
Panther.. we don't miss you! We miss sparkling. Best believe we'll be bejeweled When we walk in the room we can still make the whole place shimmer

️

️ Eee I don't think I've been this excited since Shamey had a day off (but sent Wendy)

And can I just say people saying about grown woman (

) being excited. Yess she has a lot of bambini Swifties but she is literally 3yrs younger than me

with only a couple more pairs of Loubs

Also she has a fair few songs about trash men and when I tell you I relate

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Deleted member 1840 · Jun 5, 2024

@allaboardthebirkeybike

I was about 22, (39 now)when I first started listening to her, my daughter was a toddler when i was blasting her and she grew up loving her so why the hell wouldn't I be excited lol you don't grow up and just stop having fun. We just don't orgasm over a "mingo" jug

I just tried on a dress and I'm like a wee evil tinkerbell hahahaa it's all puffy and sequined. I'm doing reputation so have that and snake tights. Snake head peice, black lipstick, black. Silver and green jewels for my face and body, snake jewels for in round my hair, snake necklace. You get the jist

that's the 2nd night outfit. First night's fearless and I've a gold dress and gold headpiece then loads of jewels for my body like gold silver and clear red lippy (i suit it unlike some

) for that one and all the sparkles I can find for hair and makeup for both looks. Even have glitter spray for all over our bodies hahaha I've got tortured poets outfit to just incase cause I'm due my period that week and I'm very aware that I hate myself when I come on so I could be like nah do this

so have that option there to. We have taylor pyjamas and everything

we have waited like a year so yes we are very excited

P.s the creativity in this outfit in the video. I wish i had time I make something lol

noseyneighbour · Jun 5, 2024

Standupifyouhateaimee said:
Sorry twinnie I missed this too. Thank you
I'm so sorry to read this I know we joke about twinning but it really seems to be we had identical childhoods
It is really strange as I've said more on here than I think I've ever said to friends re stuff. Maybe it is like therapy and feel comfortable saying it on here which actually says a lots about us and how we make each other feel. I definitely only feel comfortable saying it here (which is weird as I know anyone can read ) I glad therapy helped you. I never thought of that before and just tried to block it out but reading what you said I do think it may be feeling ashamed and like it was my/our fault, which I guess is not uncommon to feel that way. I think in the end it was one of the factors of my breakdown in my relationship as we constant argue about intimacy issues. I am sorry to hear your ex said things like that to you no wonder you were hurt and angry.
I feel you have helped me just by what you say, it's help I didn't think I needed I feel you are an amazing person and don't you forget it!! You are an amazing mother, sister and I know you would be an amazing friend to have also you are the best bloody twinnie I could of hoped for on here

Thank you for saying that about my son 🩵 he is a good egg, bloody moody teenage boy at times but he's always polite to others, kind and thankful for what I do for him

Anyway best get some sleep xxxx

I actually welled up reading that.

You are right..it is easy to talk on here and I agree it feels like a warm...supportive and inclusive space.

You are right about the fact anyone can read and I don't think about that too much. Hopefully only the right people read and comment. Outside of our threads is no ones business looking and can't see it being of any interest reading. I guess if someone off group reads and takes comfort from what we write as they relate to it..I'm ok with that.

If they choose to mock or share with others then that says a lot about them and they can go do themselves basically!

I enjoy talking on here and it really helps. I appreciate you and the others who can relate and I respect and appreciate everyone who feels they can come and share their own story and find comfort in our pasts/trauma etc.

It's really sad that so many of us share similarities growing up and still struggle today.

I'm not gonna say I'm fixed with having therapy but I have been lucky to access what I have done. I had to wait nearly 2 years for one. I know what it's called i my area so I am going to look to see what it's called in other areas too so I don't disclose my location.

It's so s and sad that it has affected our relationships and intimacy but it's not our fault we went thru such awful experiences and although it may not be the partner's fault either..if they are a good person they should support and understand and they may get a better outcome...if that's their main goal!!

I know i am a bit fed up in that area and have crazy triggersto certain things and also feel like I shudnt be doing things or feeling pleasure etc. Made me cringe writing that but I've said it!

My ex continued to do something I didn't like knowing it freaked me out and was annoyed he just cudnt do it. Not even a major part if intimacy and it gave him no benefit but control!

You saying that I helped you makes me so happy (not in a weird way) I don't mind continuing to talk about stuff with you or any others if it helps. Will be guided by you and what u feel comfortable with.
I will be as open and honest as I can and will never judge anything or anyone. (Apart from Aimee...that's warranted)
Nothing will shock me and ask away if there is anything and i will try and answer and I am here for you and anyone else who needs it.

Thank you for saying such kind things.

You are also an amazing person and mother...I can just tell! I'm lucky to have found my place and my people.
Feel all warm and fuzzy lol

Love to you my twinnie. Hope u slept ok.

xxx

allaboardthebirkeybike · Jun 5, 2024

Standupifyouhateaimee said:
Omg this just reduced me to tears but in a good way what a lovely post and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for it
I am so sorry to read about your good friend that must of been so hard for you but like you say you can't babysit an adult and if they want to they will do it
Thank you again for your lovely post it really does mean a lot I feel I know you which I know is crazy but I just know you'd be an amazing friend to have ! ... with your humour (funny as do) your values, the way you have empathy for others and of course being a football fanatic ! I also 100% do not have favourites (except I do and you are definitely one of them )
I would love to go to an england game with you or even just to a pub garden to watch a match ....I love my mates and watch England's games with them ....but they bloody do the girlie thing and chat all the way through it

Oh I bloody love you

@Standupifyouhateaimee
I've just seen this. I feel bad because when I tell you it takes me all my time to catch up on the boot over the page. I can't possibly keep track of both

Oh bless you I didn't mean to make you cry. I mean every word though you should be proud of yourself and I know your son absolutely is. Super Mum

️ No you're too kind, lovely things to say thank you

I'd bloody love to watch football with you. I

get about your girls hahaha. I'd be chanting and jeering over them or I'd have to move. I hate the ooohh girls don't know football bs what is this 1912? Haha. My fella is obsessed too and my favourite kinda date day is match day ha. We don't always get to go together with being both shift workers but we do try as much as we can.

Who's your team? Other than England obvs. You know if you said City or Liverpool now I'd probably shed a tear

don't think you'd have congratulated me if you were City though

Breaks my heart seeing what you and loads of others have been through and then feel bad for having a good childhood. But it's absolutely not lost on me unlike some. I know I'm lucky. I read posts and honestly could cry at times. Then I don't know if to comment because I can't relate and feel a little guilty. Some of the strongest women I've never met are in this group you're all strong amazing people

Standupifyouhateaimee · Jun 6, 2024

noseyneighbour said:
I actually welled up reading that.

You are right..it is easy to talk on here and I agree it feels like a warm...supportive and inclusive space. You are right about the fact anyone can read and I don't think about that too much. Hopefully only the right people read and comment. Outside of our threads is no ones business looking and can't see it being of any interest reading. I guess if someone off group reads and takes comfort from what we write as they relate to it..I'm ok with that. If they choose to mock or share with others then that says a lot about them and they can go do themselves basically!

I enjoy talking on here and it really helps. I appreciate you and the others who can relate and I respect and appreciate everyone who feels they can come and share their own story and find comfort in our pasts/trauma etc.
It's really sad that so many of us share similarities growing up and still struggle today.

I'm not gonna say I'm fixed with having therapy but I have been lucky to access what I have done. I had to wait nearly 2 years for one. I know what it's called i my area so I am going to look to see what it's called in other areas too so I don't disclose my location.

It's so s and sad that it has affected our relationships and intimacy but it's not our fault we went thru such awful experiences and although it may not be the partner's fault either..if they are a good person they should support and understand and they may get a better outcome...if that's their main goal!!
I know i am a bit fed up in that area and have crazy triggersto certain things and also feel like I shudnt be doing things or feeling pleasure etc. Made me cringe writing that but I've said it!
My ex continued to do something I didn't like knowing it freaked me out and was annoyed he just cudnt do it. Not even a major part if intimacy and it gave him no benefit but control!

You saying that I helped you makes me so happy (not in a weird way) I don't mind continuing to talk about stuff with you or any others if it helps. Will be guided by you and what u feel comfortable with.
I will be as open and honest as I can and will never judge anything or anyone. (Apart from Aimee...that's warranted)
Nothing will shock me and ask away if there is anything and i will try and answer and I am here for you and anyone else who needs it.

Thank you for saying such kind things.
You are also an amazing person and mother...I can just tell! I'm lucky to have found my place and my people.
Feel all warm and fuzzy lol
Love to you my twinnie. Hope u slept ok. xxx

It's actually so overwhelming isn't it twinnie

to feel such a connection to people we have never met but the empathy and support we receive on here does really choke me

it's like I found the friends I didn't know I needed

On reading what you said above I relate to all of that so much

and for the majority of my life I have kept it in. I still don't talk to my best friend about it despite telling her about what happened only a few years ago. For me at the moment it has not been an issue, as I have remained happily single for many years now and to be fair I can't see that changing. I am happy with just me and my boys (furry one inc)

You can just tell the "hags"
On here are the most caring people despite what people think. Even not liking Aimee comes from a place of caring. Like most on here I have never felt the need to write about someone I don't know but her and beefy are just so vile. It's so bad how they can use their big platforms to lie, manipulate and use their children for their own narcissistic selves. I honestly hope the TT era is nearing the end for these tossers!!! Who think they are untouchable and get away with anything!! Anyway that's the kind of content for the other page

But like you I feel I found my people and I feel lucky to be in your company

Hope you are having a good day xxx 🩷

Standupifyouhateaimee · Jun 6, 2024

allaboardthebirkeybike said:
Oh I bloody love you @Standupifyouhateaimee
I've just seen this. I feel bad because when I tell you it takes me all my time to catch up on the boot over the page. I can't possibly keep track of both Oh bless you I didn't mean to make you cry. I mean every word though you should be proud of yourself and I know your son absolutely is. Super Mum ️ No you're too kind, lovely things to say thank you I'd bloody love to watch football with you. I get about your girls hahaha. I'd be chanting and jeering over them or I'd have to move. I hate the ooohh girls don't know football bs what is this 1912? Haha. My fella is obsessed too and my favourite kinda date day is match day ha. We don't always get to go together with being both shift workers but we do try as much as we can. Who's your team? Other than England obvs. You know if you said City or Liverpool now I'd probably shed a tear don't think you'd have congratulated me if you were City though Breaks my heart seeing what you and loads of others have been through and then feel bad for having a good childhood. But it's absolutely not lost on me unlike some. I know I'm lucky. I read posts and honestly could cry at times. Then I don't know if to comment because I can't relate and feel a little guilty. Some of the strongest women I've never met are in this group you're all strong amazing people

I bloody love you too

Haha I know it's so hard to keep up with both pages, I read vav's too

she is as vile as Aimee, probably a bit more evil !!

Anyway I meant every word and haha I'd be joining you moving away from my mates

to be fair I just say, girls I don't mean to be rude ...but shut the do up

no I just say to them girls I'm just going to watch the football I don't mean to be rude if I'm not joining in

but they know I'm a football nut so just leave me too it

No I'm not either of those but would you think bad of me if I told you I'm a bit into pep??

Also I am a hammer so no rivalry at all

born and bread east ender....first match around 6yrs old. One thing I am grateful to my mum and generations before her.
I do have a question though and I ask many a utd fan this

Liverpool or city is there one worse than the other for you? Most say they detest Liverpool more?

Oh bless you don't ever feel guilty for having a lovely childhood, it's so nice to hear. Also the fact you feel empathy for others, says so much of what a great job your lovely parents did bringing you up

Also your dad sounded like he was a legend and a very funny man

I bet your mum is your best friend too

One of my best friends who is such a lovely girl and I say girl as she is young enough to be my daughter. I met her when my son started in year R. Bless her, she lost her mum at 15 and she had her own son who was 9mths old at the time

but she is the most amazing mother and friend, wise beyond her years. I always have the deepest empathy for her

Her mum gave her the most amazing childhood and always made everything so special for her. Despite her own loss she always tells me she is grateful for the childhood she had and has more sympathy for me and her own cousin (alcoholic mum too) who didn't have that

that's the kind of people you need in your life, those who can be grateful for all they have and those who give empathy for any situations

the best kind and that includes you and others here

Despite everything I do feel lucky for all I have and I always try and look on the bright side of life....que the song

Oh I also go up to the football on my own most games as when you are a football fan you are always part of a football family ain't you

Xxxx

noseyneighbour · Jun 6, 2024

Standupifyouhateaimee said:
It's actually so overwhelming isn't it twinnie to feel such a connection to people we have never met but the empathy and support we receive on here does really choke me it's like I found the friends I didn't know I needed
On reading what you said above I relate to all of that so much and for the majority of my life I have kept it in. I still don't talk to my best friend about it despite telling her about what happened only a few years ago. For me at the moment it has not been an issue, as I have remained happily single for many years now and to be fair I can't see that changing. I am happy with just me and my boys (furry one inc)

You can just tell the "hags"
On here are the most caring people despite what people think. Even not liking Aimee comes from a place of caring. Like most on here I have never felt the need to write about someone I don't know but her and beefy are just so vile. It's so bad how they can use their big platforms to lie, manipulate and use their children for their own narcissistic selves. I honestly hope the TT era is nearing the end for these tossers!!! Who think they are untouchable and get away with anything!! Anyway that's the kind of content for the other page

But like you I feel I found my people and I feel lucky to be in your company

Hope you are having a good day xxx 🩷

Agree with everything you say here, Twinnie (just laughed to myself as I wrote 'winnie,' and it made me think of Mrs Brown's boys

)

I'm glad you are doing ok in yourself

It's usually other people's behaviour or words that triggers though I feel.
Just remember that there are specialist organisations that can help if ever needed.

Not living my best life today twinnie!

Car is at the garage as there's an issue with it so waiting for the call!
Will then be going food etc shopping so depending on the ££££ at the garage we may be on bread and water! 🫣🫣🫣🫣

Hoping that it's not too painful

#foundmypeople

#friendsyoudidntknowyouneeded

How about yourself? Do u work nights?

xx

noseyneighbour · Jun 6, 2024

@thelurker66

Lurkey, are you ok?

You may not want to say on here but I'm assuming that you have had some struggles of some kind recently or that the group overwhelmed you...

Here if you want a chat/rant etc.

xx

noseyneighbour · Jun 6, 2024

allaboardthebirkeybike said:
Oh my darling @Standupifyouhateaimee
Just thought I'd pop over here, see if I've missed anything and just seen this. Sounds so painful and I'm so sorry you had to deal with all that, and always will I imagine. Please don't feel guilty you were a child and your sister will have known that too. I think what you did was incredibly brave It's never easy breaking the cycle and I can't imagine at that age. You had to do what was right for you. I'm so sorry for your loss but again don't feel guilty. Addiction is evil and I think even if you were there every minute sometimes it's not enough. A very close friend of mine struggled badly and I tried so hard for her. It got to the point I had to step back because it's true, if they want to they will! I couldn't babysit an adult. She did want to stop but it was too late and she checked out Just please know what you did for your Sister at the end was so beautiful and she knows and loves you so much
The things we're faced with really do shape us and I really hope you know what a special soul you are. I don't know you but know you're incredibly kind, funny and a wonderful mother Your son is blessed to have you. Working hard to give him the things you didn't have. Not to mention so much love! I don't have favourites on here I have a mental list of people's msgs I always relate to or howl at. People I know would be incredible friends and needless to say you're on my 'list' I'm proud to even just virtually 'know' you. Never forget you're a wonderful human

Aww just read this. So lovely and all true. @Standupifyouhateaimee is a lovely soul. So funny but also warm and caring. Very genuine

A few of us have been talking on here and sorry to say have similar pasts.

You are right..it does shape you for life. Kind of robbed of a childhood and marred our futures.
It feels like a safe space here and I'm so appreciative of the warmth and empathy and also words of wisdom and advice I receive.
@Standupifyouhateaimee is a little gem and glad she is here.

Made me well up with your words of kindness about her! Very well deserved too!

Sorry to hear about your friend. Really is out of your control and they have to make that choice of change but addiction is a bastard.

thelurker66 · Jun 6, 2024

noseyneighbour said:
@thelurker66

Lurkey, are you ok?

You may not want to say on here but I'm assuming that you have had some struggles of some kind recently or that the group overwhelmed you...

Here if you want a chat/rant etc. xx

I’m good nosey!
Unfortunately I can’t post publicly what is going on at the moment, it’s a shame!
But I’ll be fine, I just was finding I didn’t have anything to say, my head was fried, but I’m much better now thank you so much for checking up on me

noseyneighbour · Jun 6, 2024

Standupifyouhateaimee said:
Hey twinnie ....haha no you didn't brake it it's a bloody nightmare and took about 4hrs to charge today ! Need to get it fixed but this will be the 4th one in a year I've broke I started to reply to a post last night, typed loads then it disappeared so frustrating! Anyhow going to try and reply now
I don't think anyone judges you here at all only admire/applaud you for not standing for it and the values you have regarding it. It is shocking behavior from you mum! The young lad thing is wrong on so many levels, and even before you said too much I knew it would be a scam thing he does to loads of women! Your dad sounds an amazing man and dad. Doesn't deserve it at all and just shocking what your mum expects of him after surgery for what he had do you think he knows but turns a blind eye to try and keep her or keep her happy? I feel for your SIL that couldn't of been easy for her at all.
I think they think they have the right to treat us badly but we have to respect them and bow down to them because they gave birth to us! It amazes me how much they think we owe them. I personally think you are right to keep your distance. I don't hate my mum but I don't have anything to do with her either. She use to be able to start an argument in an empty room when she was drunk and I don't think that's changed. Last time I saw her was at my sister's funeral but it was hard as I felt for her as regardless of her being a s mum she was grieving and it must of been hard for her. My older sister was slagging her off and winding my dad up (who couldn't even look at her!) and they were both laying into her on the drive home but I didn't like that as I didn't think on that particular day should be about slating her, it was about saying goodbye to my beautiful little sister
Do you think your mum sent more than she said? Sounds like she probably did. Also is she embarrassed at all and that's why she won't report him or does she still believe maybe he will be in touch again?
What a godsend your dad must of been for you growing up. Honestly do you think it was how they were raised when they were younger that most of our mums are very similar, like that generation wasn't shown much love! My nan wasn't very lovey dovey with my mum, east ender so that type of generation and my mum's dad died when she was 2. Her brother is a wrongun and her sister was scary as fook...like some mafia wife
That saying you only get one mum, well just as well with ours eh!!
Anyway hope you are not too tired from work.
Oh and that little bay with the goats would be perfect for our retreat... Only reachable by boat perfect just our crew and animals

How did I not reply to this?? (Did i?)
I sometimes open things to reply then work gets busy! How annoying

She's an absolute deluded fool to get scammed and to do that to my dad...
No idea what she has told him tbh but wouldn't imagine my brother held back.
She prob had one of her tantrums and started blubbing that it was left at that!

Totally agree with you...she expects so much but gave and gives so little!
It's emotional manipulation and zero accountability.

My mum creates drama and then plays victim. She caused this Christmas day and has done most get togethers tbh. Not sure if I said in mu original post but she told my sister they were going to Antigua for Christmas "to get away from Xmas drama"

Like everyone else causes it!! Unbelievable and pure Narc!

I really am so so sorry about your sister

and I'm not surprised you felt for her at the funeral as you are a good person with the ability to empathise with others despite your own grief and feelings.

Also like you say there's a time and a place for things and that wasn't the day!

Have no idea how much she sent but prob more! She won't feel embarrassed just sorry for herself and clearly got attached to him! I think he blocked her. Prob onto the next victim. He needs stopping regardless!

My dad is a lovely soul but he was never there to be honest. He's a peace keeper. Everyone loves him...even friends have said he was adorable snd felt sorry for him as she displayed her toxic behaviour in front of them!

He must feel so ashamed...

My mum's mum died when she was about 20. I don't recall her at all. My mum has always said I'm very like her...whether it's some kind of resentment I don't know. Me and my sister hv the same real dad and then we have half brothers from my 'dad'

One of mine and my sister's "issues" is that we suspect the same person who ab**ed us did same to her as we don't believe someone suddenly becomes that way. She's denied it of course but wud make sense. The issue is that she handed us on a plate to that person for easy access every weekend and most holidays

Totally left in the hands of the wrong person....

Anyway!

🏝 much nicer thoughts

xxx

noseyneighbour · Jun 6, 2024

thelurker66 said:
I’m good nosey!
Unfortunately I can’t post publicly what is going on at the moment, it’s a shame!
But I’ll be fine, I just was finding I didn’t have anything to say, my head was fried, but I’m much better now thank you so much for checking up on me

I understand Lurkey...glad you are ok

Deleted member 2683 · Jun 6, 2024

@noseyneighbour thought I’d post on here my biab nails! My lady is amazing at designs but I can’t let her have all the credit I do come up with them myself

I can’t do long nails
1. My job (shouldn’t have polish on really but I wear gloves I can be naughty)
2. Im just not one for being able to function with long nails! Im a poor excuse of a female

noseyneighbour · Jun 6, 2024

itsadogslife said:
@noseyneighbour thought I’d post on here my biab nails! My lady is amazing at designs but I can’t let her have all the credit I do come up with them myself I can’t do long nails
1. My job (shouldn’t have polish on really but I wear gloves I can be naughty)
2. Im just not one for being able to function with long nails! Im a poor excuse of a female

They are really pretty

I like subtle designs and nudes and rose pink etc. Posted mine a while back as suggestions for idiot aimee lol.
1. Neither should I really although I don't really do a lot of clinical in my role now!
2. Neither can I. Even tapping on the computer or changing my nose stud

Standupifyouhateaimee · Jun 7, 2024

noseyneighbour said:
Agree with everything you say here, Twinnie (just laughed to myself as I wrote 'winnie,' and it made me think of Mrs Brown's boys )

I'm glad you are doing ok in yourself
It's usually other people's behaviour or words that triggers though I feel.
Just remember that there are specialist organisations that can help if ever needed.

Not living my best life today twinnie!
Car is at the garage as there's an issue with it so waiting for the call!
Will then be going food etc shopping so depending on the ££££ at the garage we may be on bread and water! 🫣🫣🫣🫣

Hoping that it's not too painful

#foundmypeople
#friendsyoudidntknowyouneeded

How about yourself? Do u work nights? xx

Hi twinnie, how was the car?? Not too much damage £££ I hope

Hopefully you've had more than bread and water for tea

I don't work nights anymore not for a good few years. I have always had trouble sleeping, sometimes I don't sleep all night and then go to work

but mostly just awake until 3/4 but somehow I function (just) on that, but everyone now and then it catches up with me

Probably the worst thing is to be on my phone but I wouldn't sleep anyway so might as well do the nightshift..... trolling

xxxx

Standupifyouhateaimee · Jun 7, 2024

noseyneighbour said:
Aww just read this. So lovely and all true. @Standupifyouhateaimee is a lovely soul. So funny but also warm and caring. Very genuine

A few of us have been talking on here and sorry to say have similar pasts.
You are right..it does shape you for life. Kind of robbed of a childhood and marred our futures.
It feels like a safe space here and I'm so appreciative of the warmth and empathy and also words of wisdom and advice I receive.
@Standupifyouhateaimee is a little gem and glad she is here.
Made me well up with your words of kindness about her! Very well deserved too!

Sorry to hear about your friend. Really is out of your control and they have to make that choice of change but addiction is a bastard.

Omg I was not ready to read this

honestly you are all those things you said about me and more

I actually love you (not in a creepy way for anyone else who's lurking

) but honestly you are one very special troll 🧌 my twinnie

#friendididntknowineeded

Standupifyouhateaimee · Jun 7, 2024

noseyneighbour said:
How did I not reply to this?? (Did i?)
I sometimes open things to reply then work gets busy! How annoying

She's an absolute deluded fool to get scammed and to do that to my dad...
No idea what she has told him tbh but wouldn't imagine my brother held back.
She prob had one of her tantrums and started blubbing that it was left at that!

Totally agree with you...she expects so much but gave and gives so little!
It's emotional manipulation and zero accountability.

My mum creates drama and then plays victim. She caused this Christmas day and has done most get togethers tbh. Not sure if I said in mu original post but she told my sister they were going to Antigua for Christmas "to get away from Xmas drama"
Like everyone else causes it!! Unbelievable and pure Narc!

I really am so so sorry about your sister and I'm not surprised you felt for her at the funeral as you are a good person with the ability to empathise with others despite your own grief and feelings.
Also like you say there's a time and a place for things and that wasn't the day!

Have no idea how much she sent but prob more! She won't feel embarrassed just sorry for herself and clearly got attached to him! I think he blocked her. Prob onto the next victim. He needs stopping regardless!

My dad is a lovely soul but he was never there to be honest. He's a peace keeper. Everyone loves him...even friends have said he was adorable snd felt sorry for him as she displayed her toxic behaviour in front of them! He must feel so ashamed...

My mum's mum died when she was about 20. I don't recall her at all. My mum has always said I'm very like her...whether it's some kind of resentment I don't know. Me and my sister hv the same real dad and then we have half brothers from my 'dad'

One of mine and my sister's "issues" is that we suspect the same person who ab**ed us did same to her as we don't believe someone suddenly becomes that way. She's denied it of course but wud make sense. The issue is that she handed us on a plate to that person for easy access every weekend and most holidays
Totally left in the hands of the wrong person....

Anyway! 🏝 much nicer thoughts xxx

No twinnie I don't think you replied but can totally relate with going to reply then not

plus the pages go so quick on A's page (full time job keeping up

) plus I read vav's as well!

Do you normally spend Christmas with your mum? Sounds like it would be a better place to be if she did go away! It is hard to fathom why people create dramas and play the victim

but I suppose that's all part of a Narcissist personality isn't it.
How is your mum with your children and vice versa?
My son has only seen my mum once when he was about 7. I feel guilty he has not had a relationship with grandparents like I did (the good thing I had as a child ) although he does have a amazing relationship with his dad's mum so that's good.

In regards to thinking your mum had experienced the same from that person, i think you are probably right. Which makes it even worse that your mum left you with them

I think my mum probably knew too, as I think you could see what they were a mile off but as long as she was drinking it didn't really matter. There were 2 and one was disguised as a drinking buddy

my dad on the other hand had no clue he would be heartbroken and want to hurt them (but they are long gone!)

Anyway back to those happy thoughts

Thought I'll pop some holiday snaps on ....wish I was back there with those beautiful views, sunrise and our own pool

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