'dumb supper' it's not as unhinged as it sounds - as it is sad; a set time for grief. i, and think most people avoid it, and the 'old ways' as
@HairyPoppins pointed out held it as a thinning of the veil, it's why people dress up, to scare spirits away/blend in with them, and why i don't. make loved ones who've passed favourite meal(s), set a place for them, play their music, if you're fortunate enough to have their hair or clothes lay them on the chair, let yourself 'sit in it', not the chair, that would be rude, the feeling
. people always think it's crazier than it sounds, it's just acknowledging and allowing grief without being polite. it's always going to be there and the only way out 'is through'
(if it appeals to you don't worry about timing, rules aren't real, they are made up, do it whenever you want, it just s myself every hallow's eve when i have to do my own reading and wait for the ten of swords to pop up, but that's a different story for another time). oh and photographs if it pleases you, i prefer not to use sage because it negates energy, and i want to
keep it, not clear it. it might sound sound desperate and delusional to people reading, but it's what all established religions are based on, love and loss. x
alcohol and tobacco won't go amiss either as offerings