That's fab news!
I'm so glad she's helped you so the holidays are less stressful,
Have you got stuff for the kids sorted?
I don't know if this helps but I've been using these people for a while and they've been a lifesaver in terms of food, you get bags of veg, fruit, cupboard and chilled food.
Not sure if they're in your area but worth a check!
breadandbutterthing.org
Big love about your partner, its not easy whatsoever especially when addiction is in the mix as well.
I'm not sure if I follow you on tt but if I don't it's Sophie the loving troll and like jeepers said pls reach out even if its on here and you just need a distraction