I spend 24/7 with my children. Not once have they ever thanked me for spending time with them!!! My cousins kids maybe, my neighbours kids maybe, but never heard a child thanking her mum…
This just shows a lot… and only us smart ones on here will understand exactly what I mean.
I agree, it was sad to hear Sevda saying that Ela said “Thank you mummy for spending time with me, taking me shopping” !!….
That should be the norm for an 8 year old girl…to be out with her Mum shopping. Makes you realise how little Sevda does with her daughter, that the rest of us and most other healthy parenting parents watching, consider just normal everyday time spent with our children!
My girls will say thank you to me for anything I may buy for them and treats to eat whilst out. They are very grateful little girls. However, they do NOT say thank you to me for me ‘spending time’ with them doing something as normal as shopping, including them spending money they have saved or as gifts. That’s very normal everyday life for me or my husband, or us both together… to spend time with our daughters.
Sevda, take your daughter swimming (so she can practice what she’s learning in her swimming lessons)…..
Take her to have a little manicure when you get your nails done…
Take her to a big park that’s really kitted out well with some great swings, slides, climbing frames, etc, etc and take a picnic (even in the cold weather!)
Do some easy crafts with her at home..
Do a nature hunt with her, collecting things on a list and then back home for a hot chocolate. Let her take a friend from school…
Bake simple things like cookies or fairy cakes with her..
These are NORMAL, simple things that Ela will love and they don’t cost a lot of money IF money is your issue. THESE ARE THE THINGS THAT WILL BUILD HER CONFIDENCE, MAKE HER FEEL SECURE AND ARE HEALTHY…AS WELL BEING THE THINGS SHE WILL TREASURE AND REMEMBER ABOUT HER PARENTS & CHILDHOOD IN A HEALTHY, GOOD WAY.
There are more endless things you can do with her on weekends especially, but I feel so sad for your daughter, that I’ve tried to be proactive as well as being annoyed at you, by listing a few. You’ll most likely ignore it all, and even clap back with sarcasm, but that’s ok, that’s your biggest issue that most people see about you …and at least I’ll know I’ve tried!