Stephanie Vavron @stephanievavron

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Was just thinking back to that review video and how uncomfortable it was to watch I couldn’t get through it.

Stephanie, this is genuinely from a good place, an educational place.
When your child, more so a woman, says no, it’s a full stop right after.

Lily is going to grow up giving in to someone’s badgering because you’ve taught her that you will relentlessly persist until she gives in, she now understands it’s just easier to give in than to hold her ground.
Think of that in adult hood, a man is relentlessly pestering her. She has grown up to be taught that her ‘no’ holds no substance, that it’s undermined, and unimportant.

Please, respect your daughters voice.
No, means no.
 
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This hits me hard 😞❤️

I was the same, your not alone in that 🫶🏻 I felt embarrassed and ashamed so I would write it then say oh but I can do this or that, I mean who wants to write I don’t remember the last time I washed or brushed my hair.?

It’s so poor the way it’s all done, I wish all the needed was a professional to give them the ok to move forward

I’m sorry you went through that 😞❤️❤️

I don’t know why I’m sitting here crying 😭😞

Thank you… you probably wrote that not even knowing the impact it was going to have, the validation because that’s me, if you saw me out you would think god she’s so bubbly and all put together, she’s the loudest in the room, she’s the one everyone laughs with and the one everyone loves to meet up with, but really it’s a big fake act, I’m the same as you, thank you for being so open, it made me feel less alone 🥹

❤️

Dya know what under this bridge are some of the most supportive strangers ❤️
Please don't feel it's a fake act. I'm medicated for my MH (on and off for 15 years) and I too have felt like a big fake. After a mini breakdown again last year, I now see it as masking, like our ASD babies, I honestly believe now people with MH too are incredible maskers to protect themselves.
 

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Not even watched her today since this morning. My mum got taken into hospital last night as she’s been blacking out for about a week now on and off , turns out it could be epilepsy and something to do with her heart so I’ve been up and down to Dundee today, meanwhile having no childcare for my children, a house to sort , dinner to do and a million things to do for Christmas coming. I’m actually due a breakdown , but us as real mums get on with it.

❤️❤️❤️ and more love and strength to you.

If only we could all sit on our arses for 10 hours a day giving QVC vibes.
 

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Your mum is in one of the best hospitals in the country( if she is where I think she is)and under the best neurologists ( I am assuming here ,so forgive me if I have the wrong speciality for the investigation of epilepsy)Scotland has. I am under them also.and their care is second to none.she is incredibly unlucky to have two things going on there,a family member is also under cardiology there and again,the care has been amazing. Fingers crossed she gets some answers soon. You are definitely a “real” mum ,doing what’s needed.x

If its where I think too, they were amazing when a family member had a heart attack earlier this year. They also saved my brothers life nearly 30 years ago when he came off a motorbike. He was very lucky to survive the injuries sustained.
So I'm sure your mum will receive the best care there @vavisavag ❤️
 

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Dya know what under this bridge are some of the most supportive strangers ❤️
Please don't feel it's a fake act. I'm medicated for my MH (on and off for 15 years) and I too have felt like a big fake. After a mini breakdown again last year, I now see it as masking, like our ASD babies, I honestly believe now people with MH too are incredible maskers to protect themselves.
I have met some amazing people and it’s not just because a dislike of vav she likes to claim everyone is trolls and the gang of 5 women which is a hell of a lot more than that, people can see others bullshit and everyone has an opinion on her and on tattle she doesn’t have to read here but of course she does as she is desperate to play the trolls card while everyone else’s is winning at life being the honest and decent human being calling out someones sty behaviour. She can’t even speak to her family in a nice manner is vile her mother and nanna won’t be around forever and she will be left on her own with a daughter who hates her and a son she resent.
 

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If its where I think too, they were amazing when a family member had a heart attack earlier this year. They also saved my brothers life nearly 30 years ago when he came off a motorbike. He was very lucky to survive the injuries sustained.
So I'm sure your mum will receive the best care there @vavisavag ❤️
I have Always said that there may be flaws within the NHS .but when the s hits the fan they are there 100%.
And that hospital in particular has never let me down. In the last 18 months I have had a lot of treatment there. Opting to travel 25 miles to get there and bypassing my local hospital that is practically on my doorstep.
Hugs to everyone who is in the position of needing NHS.x
 

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It’s one of the hardest thing to accept,that we need a bit of help.
And we make adjustments and accommodations unconsciously,to make things easier for ourselves.and then that becomes our normal.it can be a shock to realise that actually other people don’t have to do this.and their normal is not ours.
In the same way that we all adapt to our children’s difficulties. The realisation that the gulf between what is regular behaviour for a child ,and our own child’s behaviours, gets bigger as time goes by.
The other thing to note, for anyone who is going to make a claim,is that while the questions may ask “what help do you need?” It shouldnt be interpreted as “ what help do you get?” The two should not be confused.
The questions are really meaning “what help do you need even if you do not get this help?”
In a perfect world of course we would all get the help we need.but just because we don’t get the help,does not mean we don’t need it.
Again I am off on a rant ,but this is my biggest annoyance.and I see it all the time.
Receiving a disability benefit allows recipients to live a life where there are more options to do what they want to do. The disabled should not be living as second class citizens because they are disabled.the disabled should not be left on the breadline because of disability.
disability does not equal workshy.
but the opportunities to earn more in wages might not be so easy for a person with any sort of disability. The benefits hopefully level the playing field a bit.
So anyone out there thinking that the disabled are living the life of riley,I would ask them, how do they think the disabled should live? In poverty? In pain? Grateful for all they get?
I don’t think so.x
Exactly this! Under DWP at a medical assessment, they interrogated my mum about a short break her and my stepdad took up North. They had seen photos on her social media. The way they quizzed her about it you would think there was photos of her doing cartwheels in front of Eilean Donan Castle. There were only a few scenic photos. At her appeal she was crying saying there's people going out to work with no legs and one arm. I had to jump in, these people wake up every day knowing the have only one arm etc so they find ways to adapt. However when you have illnesses such as Fibromyalgia, Arthritis, Spondylitis and other things, you have no idea how you are going to be feeling when you wake up.
 

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‘Guys I need help’

Yes you fkn do beefster, understatement of the year 😳

Absolutely ☠️☠️☠️

My wee one picked a pair of full on silver sequin trousers in M&S sale last year when we went to spend her Xmas money. My OH would always ask her to get changed if she came down wearing them and going anywhere with him 🤣🤣🤣 for a Xmas party they were lovely but she insisted on wearing them everywhere with wellies, with crocs you name it. The looks he would be giving me over these bloody disco pants and I'd be ending myself laughing 😂😂😂
 
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This munter doesn’t give a do what she fires into her body does she . I hope she wakes up with a face that’s doubled in size for her big live . Saw an article about semiglutide on the news tonight . A woman ended up with pancreatitis and a chronic bowel condition . She was bed bound for months . Scary stuff ..especially when you’re a “single mum “ with an autistic child
 

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What the actual do is she wearing here? It’s as bad as the silver sequin shorts and blazer Aimee squeezed her size 18 arse into

When both their downfalls happen, they can always set up their own ABBA tribute (minus the men obviously IYKYK) and travel round Butlins and Haven performing together.
 

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😂😂😂 what size are you??

Well the filters say a small so give me that

Are you sure tho? We do run quite small in Zara do you want to try the medium?

Nope no how dare u! I have an ED do u know how damanging that comment is!!! My filter tells me my size!

Sorry that’s my imaginary convo she had with the sales girl 😂😂😂😂

😂😂 I heard that whole convo in my head in that ridiculous voice she used telling the story about the £90 Tesco order she went to collect but hadn't checked out!