While not putting myself up as any sort of expert on autism .i kind of agree with you.
My two sons are on the spectrum.one more affected than the other.
But there are things that M displays or doesn’t display stand out a mile for me .
Has no food issues. Neither smells,looks,textures or tastes put him up nor down.
He eats a greater variety of foods than I do.
I was very surprised at his lack of response to the smoke alarm going off.
He doesn’t really respond too badly to touch.he might squirm a bit when beefy grabs him for a hug.but that looks like it’s because he just gets fed up with it .
She says he has no sense of danger.but when he was standing on the kitchen worktop, he doesn’t attempt to jump off.
My youngest would have leapt off a 10 ft cliff if we didn’t hold him back.M appears to know his limits there.
She has already said he falls asleep at night with no issues.( do me ! I wish mine could have)
She says he likes routine.but even simple things like what he eats his tea from. It’s never the same thing twice nights running. My youngest would not have coped with that at all.
I know she has said that haircuts are a problem. But he always looks very well groomed. My youngest looked like a scarecrow. I am no hairdresser, but I had to cut his hair in bed when he was asleep one side at a time.
I could list hundreds of more examples and I know that because autism is a spectrum so no two kids are the same.but some things are a common theme with autism.but M doesn’t seem to fit.
No disrespect meant to any other sen parent.these are just observations .