My boy is genuinely the most loving amazing 9 year old on this planet. He struggles to regulate his emotions and often lashes out. Especially whilst at school, out of his comfort zone. We have had numerous calls to collect him because he has attacked teachers and trashed the classroom. That isn’t my boy. That’s the meltdown he is in and in that moment he is in fight or flight mode. His attendance is down to below 40%. I’m a mother of 8 children. They all know right from wrong. He isn’t choosing to behave in this way. People need to be mindful of what comes out of their uneducated minds !
Honestly I hear you, my grandson is autistic and super loving he has AuADHD. We as a family find this book really useful there are others in the series to help family, teachers etc. thankfully our boys teacher has a son with autism so is AMAZING with him, she has so many coping things in place for him in the classroom, even a quiet table that has sensory things that he can go to if he feels he needs to calm down, movement breaks in lessons etc.