'i didn't know, i didn't know, i wuz looking for advice'
if you don't know well and able enough, when you've been sitting on the internet discussing how dangerous the internet is, how dangerous strangers (and people you know) are, then you're not able enough.
ringing social services on each other as an attack, because you feel like it but not when you knew there was a dependent in danger? shrugging off seriously questionable behaviour because the person is, currently, currently, sitting with you, and then screaming that everyone else is the problem... you're the problem.
all i see is people giving excuses and trying to help their friend try and get what they want back.