Why does it matter if Sugarbliss said she was going to take it personally? You were sniped, end of. No cheating, so get the do over it.
And "I've lost my dad too"... The fact that you cannot appreciate the difference between a grown woman losing her dad to a terminal illness 12 years ago and a child losing their dad in a sudden, tragic circumstance 2 years ago speaks volumes. Screams volumes.
It's not banter if it's not mutual. If one side is "bantering" and the other is crying, that's just BULLYING.