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Thank you for trying to spare my feelings Lurkey ❤️ I kinda guessed it was directed at me because I have spoken about it very recently. But thank you ❤️

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Jiggy hello. You seriously have no idea and this might come as a surprise for you thinking we're all evil but I'm glad you don't. Truly I am. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy to absolutely despise their own body when they see the scars a fing monster left behind. I'm glad you don't feel the anger I do or the fing shame that I let that happen to me. Because trust me I do feel blame that I ever put myself in the position to let it get that far! 😡 Comparing me to a fing t who's own mother can't stand the sight of is vile fing vile! You know what else is vile people who make it up for TT. You see where I'm going with this? 3X it was talked out of with no action and they were the only 3X I bothered to report it because what was the point? The point is the more twisted fed up fs like the one you fing idolise make it so much harder for the people who really are in the most dangerous situations imaginable to be taken seriously!! 3X no further action until he would've, could've and should've fing killed me!! Killed me! Not shouted at me!! If you think it's strange of me to speak on this here then strange is what I'll be. Because I will never ever stop advocating for DV to end. I will never stop calling out fs who add to the problem and do have blood on their hands as much as the perpetrators.
If you know anything about trauma then you should know it's very often easier to speak to strangers because you don't want to burden and trigger the memories for the people who love me. If I and many others find solace in the anonymity of speaking with like minded strangers brave enough to share their own stories is weird then so fing be it. And if you yourself are triggered by DV then I'm sorry truly I am. This page very rarely mentions your holy one, it's a safe space. If you need somewhere to vent the page is open, you may find it liberating and make virtual friends you never knew you needed.
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But don't ever compare me to a monster
And don't ever call me a victim.
You’re welcome there is also someone else that they’ve made a video about 😔 but I’m not going to give them the satisfaction of highlighting that one.
Their dv video angered me at first but they don’t know what people like us went through.
I often feel the same, how did I allow it for so long etc but a therapist told me “you didn’t chose to be abused, you didn’t ask for it, you didn’t say please do this and that to me” they were attracted to your good nature and were jealous of it so tried to destroy it because they could never be like that!
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Annnnd breathe... 🤣😂
Anyhow on a lighter note I got some flowers to take to my Dad's stone then thought of his dark humour that I absolutely inherited 🤣 knowing he would come out with some bollocks like what a waste of money they'll only die 😑😂 So do it I've kept them 😂😂 and put them next to his picture it's the thought that counts 😂
I'll raise a pint watching the match instead come on the boys ❤️🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🦁
 

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Thanks for your perspective...it makes sense too. I already spent 20 years in a toxic marriage.
I did feel like I was beginning to find me again..although I’ve struggled lately with my decision and been really upset and been questioning my feelings and the decision. I'm now feel really anxious again and unsettled.
If he went away...got diagnosed and worked on himself and had genuine remorse then that wud be different but it's been a few months. Back like a petulant child. Everything I have read says a narcissistic person can't change. Whether that's true or not i don't know.
Oh and he will have seem my sister's post on fb of us at the spa...that's probably done it! He thinks its me who has the issues clearly but my issues are his behaviour and reactions to s!
Thanks again ❤️x
Oh I'm sorry I seen 2 years although probably half asleep! 20 years is a lifetime but you owe yourself happiness and waiting for someone to give you what you deserve will be a long wait if they haven't in that 20 years it's unlikely that they will. It is true someone who is narcissistic generally is that but if they are to get better they have to admit everything about their thought process is wrong and almost rewire themselves. It's very very rare. If he's never realised in those 20 years that how he treats you isn't right then he wont now and I'm assuming he thought give you space and he can just walk on back in and now you have been enjoying yourself he will feel like he's losing some grip. Keep going. You're stronger than you think and eventually you will look back and realise how much you have put up with and how far you have come ❤️
 
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Annnnd breathe... 🤣😂
Anyhow on a lighter note I got some flowers to take to my Dad's stone then thought of his dark humour that I absolutely inherited 🤣 knowing he would come out with some bollocks like what a waste of money they'll only die 😑😂 So do it I've kept them 😂😂 and put them next to his picture it's the thought that counts 😂
I'll raise a pint watching the match instead come on the boys ❤️🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🦁
I love this! My dad does this sometimes because my mum would have said the same thing 🤣🤣
 
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Yesss hahaha ❤️ I heard it was because LFC play in Red but so do United soooo 😘🤣 She did Carolina, no body no crime. THE MANUSCRIPT 😭😭😭 and Red ❤️ It was the best night ever ❤️😭 honestly I'll be talking about it for months. I'm sad it's over 🤣❤️
People have started fixating on gary lightbody coming to one of our shows in Dublin just because he's Irish but I'm not so sure. I'm so delighted you had such a good time! 🎉🎉🎉
 
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Oh I'm sorry I seen 2 years although probably half asleep! 20 years is a lifetime but you owe yourself happiness and waiting for someone to give you what you deserve will be a long wait if they haven't in that 20 years it's unlikely that they will. It is true someone who is narcissistic generally is that but if they are to get better they have to admit everything about their thought process is wrong and almost rewire themselves. It's very very rare. If he's never realised in those 20 years that how he treats you isn't right then he wont now and I'm assuming he thought give you space and he can just walk on back in and now you have been enjoying yourself he will feel like he's losing some grip. Keep going. You're stronger than you think and eventually you will look back and realise how much you have put up with and how far you have come ❤️
No u were right. This relationship was 2 years. I left my husband after 2 years. He still lives in the house we own as refused to leave!
Not doing very well am I!!
That's exactly what my recent ex thought he could do. I have looked back and thought wtf was I putting up with but I had hope i guess...I also realise now that I am/was trauma bonded which makes it harder. (Don't even think about using that for your warped content jiggy 🤬)
Should hv been a red flag that my adult daughter hates him and gave her the creeps. I can't talk to her about it at all or the level/content of what has happened last 2 years.
I don't think I'm strong..that's the issue as I stay too long and getting a message has fed with my head and I've been missing him. (I know that is ridiculous)
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Yes nosey I think it was aimed at this page. I was actually fuming when I saw it and went off on one on Aimee's page! The very fact it has taken very personal, horrendous experiences off here to post there tell us everything we need to confirm what a monster it is!!! Like you say it's not anything about TT here !!
There is another one I saw which I was equally fuming about but didn't want to put it in here. Made Another post about another horrible situation a chance to dig at us, and has the cheek to call us bullying! It's as vile as they come!! 😡😡😡
Oh really twinnie. I haven't been over there much..❤️
Very low blow and like u say speaks volumes. Hypocritical b! If she's female which we assume it is...(OF)
Which was the other one twinnie? Or is it best i don't look... i prob will look as I'm a t and cut my nose of to spite my face!
Hope you are ok 🥹❤️xx
 
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Oh really twinnie. I haven't been over there much..❤️
Very low blow and like u say speaks volumes. Hypocritical b! If she's female which we assume it is...(OF)
Which was the other one twinnie? Or is it best i don't look... i prob will look as I'm a t and cut my nose of to spite my face!
Hope you are ok 🥹❤️xx
Hey it’s me the video was directed at. I spoke about rehoming my dog, that THING has made a video basically saying I’m abandoning.
Thank you to everyone who tried to prevent me from seeing it!
I was on TikTok and a notification came up that it had posted so don’t worry no one here directed me to it 🤣
It can get fed I’d love to know something vulnerable about it so I can pick apart and fabricate its story too.
It’s actually the first time I opened up on here, I don’t go into anything personal usually. Just kind of needed a bit of reassurance.

Does anyone know of any websites / apps where we could have a private chat without using phone numbers and we’d obviously use our usernames from here but like we could accept people to join (must declare themselves on here before being accepted) think it’d kill the huns knowing we’re talking privately and they can’t monitor what we’re saying!
It’d have to keep us safe obviously. Please don’t think I’m like Jo where I want your personal accounts 🤦‍♀️ But I’ve been thinking for a while I’d open up a hell of a lot more if we had private chats in some way!
 
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Honestly I bloody love this page. I feel so blessed to hear some of your amazing stories and lucky to feel safe enough to share my own. Sorry I do go on a bit sometimes 🤣 Honestly feel like you're all the friends I've never met and the one's I never knew I needed. Don't get me wrong I have wonderful friends but it really is a lot easier to vent to people who don't know you and won't try to wrap you in cotton wool although friends who do only mean well ❤️ Can't remember who said earlier but I too feel protective of you all and I also know that I have people here looking out for me too which is special ❤️ I don't know what it was about @Standupifyouhateaimee rant this morning that made me switch right back into Swiftie mode screaming... 🎵 So tell me everything is not about me. BUT WHAT IF IT IS? And low and behold.. 👀🤣❤️ Thank you to those I saw having my back and just know I'd leave Jigsaw in the same room as my dog for any of you she'd scoff a fair few pieces 🤣

Sending love to you all ❤️❤️❤️
 
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Hey it’s me the video was directed at. I spoke about rehoming my dog, that THING has made a video basically saying I’m abandoning.
Thank you to everyone who tried to prevent me from seeing it!
I was on TikTok and a notification came up that it had posted so don’t worry no one here directed me to it 🤣
It can get fed I’d love to know something vulnerable about it so I can pick apart and fabricate its story too.
It’s actually the first time I opened up on here, I don’t go into anything personal usually. Just kind of needed a bit of reassurance.

Does anyone know of any websites / apps where we could have a private chat without using phone numbers and we’d obviously use our usernames from here but like we could accept people to join (must declare themselves on here before being accepted) think it’d kill the huns knowing we’re talking privately and they can’t monitor what we’re saying!
It’d have to keep us safe obviously. Please don’t think I’m like Jo where I want your personal accounts 🤦‍♀️ But I’ve been thinking for a while I’d open up a hell of a lot more if we had private chats in some way!
Oh lovely 🥺❤️ @itsadogslife I'm sorry you saw it but kind of glad you have acknowledged it and aren't too effected. I hope not anyway. Just know as I said the other day what you are doing is so responsible and kind. What's best for pooch even though I imagine it's absolutely ripping you apart 💔 The funny thing is you saying you wish you had info to use against them because even if you did you wouldn't because you're not a t and Jigsaw is to be blunt.
Can't imagine what you're going through. I have no idea how but I too would really love to connect elsewhere without fing spies. It's hypocritical as do that sloth is rarely mentioned here so there is absolutely no need to take people's personal stories to try to hurt us. I hope a wheel falls off it's trike 🤣🤣
Sending you so much love ❤️
 
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Oh lovely 🥺❤️ @itsadogslife I'm sorry you saw it but kind of glad you have acknowledged it and aren't too effected. I hope not anyway. Just know as I said the other day what you are doing is so responsible and kind. What's best for pooch even though I imagine it's absolutely ripping you apart 💔 The funny thing is you saying you wish you had info to use against them because even if you did you wouldn't because you're not a t and Jigsaw is to be blunt.
Can't imagine what you're going through. I have no idea how but I too would really love to connect elsewhere without fing spies. It's hypocritical as do that sloth is rarely mentioned here so there is absolutely no need to take people's personal stories to try to hurt us. I hope a wheel falls off it's trike 🤣🤣
Sending you so much love ❤️
Oh it did at first I was raging but I told all yesterday when they mentioned about the DV survivors “probably lying” about their stories that it’s doing it to get under your skin. So I know it’s coming for me now trying to do the same.

There’s plenty of uneducated people around about animals dogs in particular. Keeping dogs that you’re unable to accommodate for is selfish in my opinion. Eg - working long hours keeping them home alone, unable to take them for a walk (breed dependent on how much exercise is needed of course) etc for what? For the sake of having a dog? For the sake of not getting judged by rehoming? Don’t get me started on dogs that have 0 quality of life and you keep them around to save YOURSELF heartache! (Becki jones from what I’ve heard)

I had the option to have her fostered until someone adopted. I didn’t do that, as I want her next home to be her last. I don’t want to confuse her.

Im not feeling great at the minute as I’ve said think I have some sort of viral infection and everything else life throws I’ve honestly got too much going on to let irrelevant online TROLLS (yes you are a troll jizzyknickers) affect me

That’s my two pence anyway. I’ve a right to defend myself also if anyone’s pissed off that I’ve done a few posts about it. I’m leaving it there, I’m a fING HERO AND ITS NOT UP FOR DEBATE 😃 if you’re that arsed jizzypants, come adopt her!

Also, looking forward to the TS videos guys! Like I said it’s full on my fyp at the minute I can’t stop watching them. I keep crying at random videos I can’t imagine how emotional it would’ve been to be there I’d of been a MESS

Love to you all you’re all so caring and lovely. BIG VIRTUAL GROUP HUG 🤗
 

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Oh it did at first I was raging but I told all yesterday when they mentioned about the DV survivors “probably lying” about their stories that it’s doing it to get under your skin. So I know it’s coming for me now trying to do the same.

There’s plenty of uneducated people around about animals dogs in particular. Keeping dogs that you’re unable to accommodate for is selfish in my opinion. Eg - working long hours keeping them home alone, unable to take them for a walk (breed dependent on how much exercise is needed of course) etc for what? For the sake of having a dog? For the sake of not getting judged by rehoming? Don’t get me started on dogs that have 0 quality of life and you keep them around to save YOURSELF heartache! (Becki jones from what I’ve heard)

I had the option to have her fostered until someone adopted. I didn’t do that, as I want her next home to be her last. I don’t want to confuse her.

Im not feeling great at the minute as I’ve said think I have some sort of viral infection and everything else life throws I’ve honestly got too much going on to let irrelevant online TROLLS (yes you are a troll jizzyknickers) affect me

That’s my two pence anyway. I’ve a right to defend myself also if anyone’s pissed off that I’ve done a few posts about it. I’m leaving it there, I’m a fING HERO AND ITS NOT UP FOR DEBATE 😃 if you’re that arsed jizzypants, come adopt her!

Also, looking forward to the TS videos guys! Like I said it’s full on my fyp at the minute I can’t stop watching them. I keep crying at random videos I can’t imagine how emotional it would’ve been to be there I’d of been a MESS

Love to you all you’re all so caring and lovely. BIG VIRTUAL GROUP HUG 🤗
The DV post made me so angry at first then I sat back and thought about how I wasn’t going to give them the satisfaction, they blindly support someone who doesn’t give a damn about them, spend hours reading numerous threads trying to get content for their next video, on a site they can easily join and have their say directly. Instead hides behind comments off, absolute strange person! Its giving stan by Eminem vibes! Even spending time googling what categorises abuse of a person but then labels DV people liars. Since you went to Google and you know every effing thing jiggy!
You’ve done what’s best for the dog and you are ensuring they go to a good home and even are keeping her in the mean time whilst she finds one, we all know this isn’t a decision you’ve made lightly.

I’m sorry I didn’t tell you, I just didn’t want to upset you because I know you was sad about having to make the decision in general and I didn’t want to add to it, lots of love Jackie ❤️❤️❤️
 
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The DV post made me so angry at first then I sat back and thought about how I wasn’t going to give them the satisfaction, they blindly support someone who doesn’t give a damn about them, spend hours reading numerous threads trying to get content for their next video, on a site they can easily join and have their say directly. Instead hides behind comments off, absolute strange person! Its giving stan by Eminem vibes! Even spending time googling what categorises abuse of a person but then labels DV people liars. Since you went to Google and you know every effing thing jiggy!
You’ve done what’s best for the dog and you are ensuring they go to a good home and even are keeping her in the mean time whilst she finds one, we all know this isn’t a decision you’ve made lightly.

I’m sorry I didn’t tell you, I just didn’t want to upset you because I know you was sad about having to make the decision in general and I didn’t want to add to it, lots of love Jackie ❤️❤️❤️
I understand your reasonings completely,
Thank you auntie val 🥰
I said when you took a break you’re deffo the voice of reason on these threads 🤣❤️
Keeping us in check, having our backs & talking sense when it’s needed!
I appreciate you & everyone who’s given me support 🩷🩷🩷

Ps isn’t it funny how warm, soppy and grateful I feel now. These weirdos who try to change our opinions just bring us all closer together. It’s funny really 🤣🤣🤗🤗
 
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Hi all, I'm not 'announcing my departure' but letting you know I'm coming off for a while...a few days maybe.

I'm feeling s. I feel like my old demons are coming back.. prob with that message from him and prob the jig post made it worse. Plus my sister's lack of understanding why i wont just meet him despite her hearing everything he has said and done to me and feel a bit betrayed tbh and worried that she's being manipulated as he's good at that.

I feel insecure and paranoid about everything and feeling upset and not sure why. I can't seem to regulate my emotions very well atm...

I don't want to bring negativity to the group when so many are struggling and it's not all about me and I don't want to dominate the thread. I don't want the balance to be me take take and not giving or not being with it to contribute amd support others.

Overthinking...yes probably but I just feel weird and out of sorts. I dont like being triggered by things I prob shudnt but I cant always stop the feelings and thoughts that don't help me rationalise.
Hope you understand. Not abandoning you all permanently promise x
 

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Hi all, I'm not 'announcing my departure' but letting you know I'm coming off for a while...a few days maybe.

I'm feeling s. I feel like my old demons are coming back.. prob with that message from him and prob the jig post made it worse. Plus my sister's lack of understanding why i wont just meet him despite her hearing everything he has said and done to me and feel a bit betrayed tbh and worried that she's being manipulated as he's good at that.

I feel insecure and paranoid about everything and feeling upset and not sure why. I can't seem to regulate my emotions very well atm...

I don't want to bring negativity to the group when so many are struggling and it's not all about me and I don't want to dominate the thread. I don't want the balance to be me take take and not giving or not being with it to contribute amd support others.

Overthinking...yes probably but I just feel weird and out of sorts. I dont like being triggered by things I prob shudnt but I cant always stop the feelings and thoughts that don't help me rationalise.
Hope you understand. Not abandoning you all permanently promise x
I hope you know you don’t need to go for any of things you’ve listed in regards to us we are always here for you nosey ❤️❤️
 

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I understand your reasonings completely,
Thank you auntie val 🥰
I said when you took a break you’re deffo the voice of reason on these threads 🤣❤️
Keeping us in check, having our backs & talking sense when it’s needed!
I appreciate you & everyone who’s given me support 🩷🩷🩷

Ps isn’t it funny how warm, soppy and grateful I feel now. These weirdos who try to change our opinions just bring us all closer together. It’s funny really 🤣🤣🤗🤗
🤣🤣 thank you for saying that I feel like I’m forever a nag or over thinking!
 
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No u were right. This relationship was 2 years. I left my husband after 2 years. He still lives in the house we own as refused to leave!
Not doing very well am I!!
That's exactly what my recent ex thought he could do. I have looked back and thought wtf was I putting up with but I had hope i guess...I also realise now that I am/was trauma bonded which makes it harder. (Don't even think about using that for your warped content jiggy 🤬)
Should hv been a red flag that my adult daughter hates him and gave her the creeps. I can't talk to her about it at all or the level/content of what has happened last 2 years.
I don't think I'm strong..that's the issue as I stay too long and getting a message has fed with my head and I've been missing him. (I know that is ridiculous)
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You're doing better than alright! You left! Material things are just that. You can build all that back up over time. You are able to admit what was done to you and that's massive. Talking to your daughter about it may never come but as long as you could if you wanted to. Nobody sees the full extent of what went on until they are outside of the bubble. I've known people to have realisations years later that they experienced certain types of abuse but never really thought of it that way but outside looking in it was nothing but abuse of all kinds. You are very hard on yourself. Be kind to yourself for small wins because bunched together they turn into massive one's! You miss the person you thought he was, you miss the company, you miss probably little things that were maybe redeeming about him but I'm sure you don't miss the feelings he left you with and the way he treated you. It'd completely normal to miss someone who was a massive part of your life. Don't feel bad about that xx