Red flags are red flags.. by some standards kkk's might be considered minimal. By others' standards, they may see these as the red flags that disguise deeper issues or abuse that's happening. Without sounding like a lunatic, why does she have a minimum of 2 phones? How many other devices are in the house? How desperate for a man's attention is she? What does she agree to just so that she feels like she's got a bloke's attention? That's all I'm going to say. I'm not accusing anyone of anything and I'm not suggesting numerous reports to SS are warranted (but to be fair, the account said she'd just emailed the contact that she had - not made 10 separate reports).
One question that I always ask myself when we hear the details of these poor children that end up dead or severely traumatised because of neglect and or abuse is: why did no one know what was happening? The majority of the time, these kids were overlooked and discounted because SS determined that they were satisfied that the children's welfare was OK. Sometimes this won't have even have included any actual face to face visits with these kids. The system is fed and overwhelmed and imo they don't necessarily have the right type of people in these jobs. You can have all the degrees in the world, but if you're not street wise or ever been around different types of people or even experienced some of the rougher/nastier people or situations in life, then you don't actually know what you're looking for. That's why it's important that the regular person takes it upon themselves to report any concerns, more than once if they have to.
Generally, I don't go through life being a fence sitter but I'm kind of on the fence with the debate of whether 10 follow up emails was necessary. I see the reasons for it coming across as being fing crackers behaviour but I also know that in some ways, someone needs to do it. During my years of working within a safeguarding environment you would be fing astounded at what can come to light when the right type of digging gets done.
