Delusive angie @delusive_angie10

Alicia

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He was 18 to 19, not 17-18. It’s simple maths. And he’s messing himself up on his lies. Grooming doesn’t start off sexual, it’s engaging with someone in conversation to then gain their trust. Why would you want to have a friendship of any sort with a child as an 18 year old. At 18 I wasn’t running around with 15 year olds. Just saying.
 
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So 19th July 2019

Alfie is 18 years 11 months
Carly 15 with date unknown

11 months prior if Alfie began talking to her the day before he turned 18, unless her birthday falls in that one month period between, he started talking to her when she was 14 right? If he started talking to her a month before he turned 18, she was indefinitely 14.
 

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Alfie let me give you a quick lesson.
Grooming doesn’t have to be of a sexual nature or end goal. Grooming is a power balance between a child and an adult.
The 7 steps of grooming are identified as follows
  • Identifying and targeting the victim. Any child or teen may be a potential victim. Some predators may be attracted to children and youth with certain characteristics or may target youth with certain co-existing factors—such as vulnerable parents—to facilitate the crime.
  • Gaining trust and access. The perpetrator may observe the child and assesses his/her vulnerabilities to learn how best to approach and interact with the child. Perpetrators may offer the victims special attention, understanding and a sympathetic ear, and then engage the child in ways that eventually gain their friendship and trust (they may play games with victims or give them rides, provide them with gifts and/or special treats).
  • Playing a role in the child’s life. The perpetrator may manipulate the relationship so that it appears he or she is the only one who fully understands the child or meets the child’s needs in a particular way. A perpetrator may also exploit a youth’s empathy and convince the young person that s/he is the only one who understands the perpetrator and reinforce that the perpetrator “needs” the child or youth.
  • Isolating the child. Offering the child rides and/or taking the child out of his or her surroundings is one way that the perpetrator may separate the child from others and gain access to the child alone, so that others cannot witness the abuse. (Note that in other instances, perpetrators have been successful in molesting victims without detection while other adults were in the room.)
  • Creating secrecy around the relationship. The perpetrator may reinforce the special connection with the victim when they are alone or through private communication with the victim (such as letters emails, or text messages), and strengthen it with admonitions against telling anyone, lest others be unhappy about it. The perpetrator may threaten the victim with disclosure, suicide, physical harm to the child or loved ones, or other traumas if he or she tells.
  • Initiating sexual contact. With the power over the child victim established through emotional connection coercion or one of the other tactics, the perpetrator may eventually initiate physical contact with the victim. It may begin with touching that is not overtly sexual (though a predator may find it sexually gratifying) and that may appear to be casual (arm around the shoulder, pat on the knee, etc.). Gradually, the perpetrator may introduce more sexualized touching. By breaking down inhibitions and desensitizing the child, the perpetrator can begin overtly touching the child.
  • Controlling the relationship. Perpetrators rely on the secrecy of the relationship to keep it going, and to ensure that the child will not reveal the abuse. Children are often afraid of disclosing the abuse. They may have been told that they will not be believed, or that something about the child “makes” the abuser do this to them. The child may also feel shame, or fear that they will be blamed. Often, the perpetrator threatens the child to ensure that s/he won’t disclose the abuse.
I think you will find that you Alfie fall within that category of a groomer, you may or may not of gotten to the stage of it becoming sexual but you certainly do fall within the category of a groomer