I know you have a right to reply and comment.
Im genuinely asking why did u feel u had to mention my long posts off topic as it just felt like another dig.
Nearly all my long posts were generally over here. I'm also not the only one who writes long posts. Usually just a few of us. I wudnt expect anyone else wud want to read my crap anyway.
I acknowledge that I have used/needed the group for support and advice. If that makes me a saddo or needy so beit. I probably am too reliant on here and others. I don't take it for granted tho...I hv always appreciated advice and guidance and taken it well.
I have neve said that your first reply to me was bullying or insulting. l just felt it wad blunt. You acknowledged it possibly but was but now u are asking what is wrong with it?
I have said that my initial response back to you was not ideal and even apologised for that.
It was the subsequent messages that...whether u were fed up with hearing about it or not, that were harsh and uncalled for imo and shocked me anyone cud be so cold. That's my opinion and others have commented on it. If u see it as over reactive or whatever thats your opinion. I have said numerous times that i went into a negative frane of mind and it had its part to play in the downfall. I don't think u pandered at any point nor did I want or need that from you. You replied to my message which included acknowledgement from myself and an apology with all that stuff u said to me. How was I meant to receive that? Anyone human wud react or overeact to that. It was then I knew I had to leave which u wux be lying if u said u weren't happy about.
It's going to have to be an agree to disagree over majority of all this.
Am i pleased or proud of myself how it all went down and how I've made others feel...no!
Can u take my part to play back...no..but I have acknowledged my part, my issues and failed explanations on my point of view and apologised more than once. The acknowledgement and apologies feel one sided but if that's the way it is..so beit. I can only decide how I move forward and on.
Sticking up for yourself is fine..that is what i was doing for myself. The name calling was wrong..I own that but the feelings and emotions at that time were valid and I had been on the receiving end to that awful message.
I actually didn't know it was you who had an episode with lurker before she said.
You admit your to the point if u call it that..can't recall how u worded it..someone else is naturally going to take something as blunt or insensitive. They may not react in the same manner as me..they may just disappear.
If I'm being honest..I wud never want you or anyone else to be ganged up on..that's cruel but it's actually how I've ended up feeling.
I was surprised more ppl didn't take that message for what it was and u yourself acknowledge that it wasn't great and apologise for some of that which I appreciate...genuinely.
You did make reference to love hearts and love you's which was obv what you were referring to so that is whether u are aware of like it or not, actually an example of gaslighting. I'm seeing things that aren't there?
Why say it then when it was obv what u were referring to. How does that help. You can't or shouldnt fan the flames...cause fire to continue then say u are innocent of any insinuation. I don't see what i want to see..I'm just not stupid and whether it's obv to others too is irrelevant to me or u now. I guess I felt protective over twinnie as it related to her too.
From your paragraph starting about self aware i actually agree with everything u say after that. At the end of the day it's correct.
Yes u explained why "I took your post wrong" I genuinely never saw the apology or sorry tho.. if it was u saying.. sorry u took it that way.. that it not an apology. That's not me being argumentative...it's just not the same thing and wud have gone a long way if u had have done and I've given that courtesy to u. That doesn't seem to get picked up on or accepted it seems.
I'm not aware of anyone else who has left so not sure who u are referring to as good or funny ppl. From what I've seen...the others want u to stay?
This is where it ends. We have both had our say...reasonably amicably and we are allowed are own views and opinions.
I won't be coming back on the group..i don't think that wud productive for anyone so u don't need to worry!
I don't want to continue all of this either. For you and possibly others, it may just piss u off but for me..it just upsets me further and I'm fragile and can't deal with this any longer. So please...can we move on/away from each other or whatever.
So I come here and reply to you in a polite and kind manner and you choose to reply that way? That probably says a lot more about you as a person than it does me.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with my initial message (whether it come across as bluntness or not) because there was no malicious intent and I was trying to help, which I explained but you have repeatedly ignored. And aside from my Gatwick post (which I held my hands up about and apologised) not one of my posts have been rude, unkind or insulting to you but you cannot say the same.
Again you are going about ‘long posts’ and ‘message endings’ when they wasn’t digs at all but examples of different posting styles and I used those given that they are relevant to you. You are just looking for issues. That’s not gaslighting, it’s facts. And the acknowledgement and apology is there on my side but again you are choosing to ignore it.
And to actually actively want a group to gang up on me is just really a despicable thing to be quite honest. And that is the very definition of bullying. So maybe next you throw that word about maybe have a look closer to home eh. And I know you’ve taken issue that more people haven’t called me out, it seems to be the bigger issue in fact and something you wanted to happen for some bizarre reason .
Now I don’t want a reply from you. It’s done, you’ve had your say and I have had mind. You’ve massively overreacted and to be honest your posts on the matter are hypocritical, erratic, ignorant and just not very nice. And I’m really proud of myself for not responding in the same manner (which you would deserve).