Sorry guys...my angry floodgates have been opened now...
Also and I know it's not the same through each hospital trust but having been in for multiple surgeries and procedures, I've always had to confirm that someone will be on hand for 24 hours after leaving hospital incase anything happens, now I know you can just say yes and it's never checked but I've always had to have someone collect me from whatever ward I've been on before they will let me go?
Again, I know every place is different but surely after having 'major' lung surgery he would even so far as been told not to even carry your hospital bag to the car...if he's got 'no-one' who's collecting him, helping him?...surely respite would have been mentioned due to the severity of his surgery as they simply don't have the ward beds to keep someone in, especially someone of his age?
So many things just don't add up and unless you're aware of the protocols, procedures etc (I wasn't before my diagnosis) it's very hard to lie and keep up the pretence and unfortunately he's not doing a very good job of it