If you're still here, I've got another question..
Do you know if your Mother knows about Melvyn's TikTok? I'm assuming she does.
Do you think she'll respond at some point? Or does Melvyn carry on because she knows that your Mother won't respond?
She probably does know and that's due to the eldest brother no doubt.
she will never respond because it was our mother that cut contact with her.
And I do feel that's the main driving force of why she is doing this.
She's only 4 years into no contact and I do feel but she is missing her.
I gave my mum a chance plenty of times until it just got to the point of I'm wasting my time and I'm wasting my kids' time.
She's legitimately going through the same thoughts and feelings but instead of acknowledging them with her she would rather go onto its social media tiktok to bash on how much of a s she was.
In time she will come to realization that she had to go through a lot being hard of hearing being diagnosed with MS 30 years old having been three kids and as far as I know she had a very tough upbringing so imagine all that mixed into one no wonder she turned to drink because she didn't get any help with her mental health or any help with the Ms support.
That's me understanding that yeah she wasn't there for me as a mother but there's reasons behind it because she was left behind by the government and the system at the time.
Don't get me wrong I'm just not using that as an excuse but after having to grow up very quick at the age of 18 and have to push through after seeing a lot of things and being mentally incapable for many years you start to realise there's always a reason.
No one just turns into an alcoholic for any reason all turns to drugs for any reason?
I was just dealt with the sstick.
Whilst Melissa had all the support off her cousins uncles and aunties she could go to them with any issue and if things kicked off she used to get picked up.
Unfortunately I didn't have that luxury.
Like a previously said living in a tent around December and getting into a bedsit surrounded by druggies I reached out to all these people the I thought will my family and none of them helped.
Only my uncle reached out for a while made me tea but just bitched about me mother and wanted to the gossip about me mother.
There was no help.
But like I said to her her way of coping is to do what she's doing right now my where of coping is accepting and trying to be the best fiance and the best father I could possibly be to my kids.
For some reason she said that I wanted my children to be the forefront over the step children that is so untrue.
She was never on time with my kids' birthdays even didn't turn up to my eldest fourth birthday because good old Andrew decided to be a naughty boy and Play away. She refused to turn up.
She's only looked after my kids three times in 12 years yet she's speaking like she's the best aunt in the world.
Spade a spade to me so especially when she's lying about being bothered about the kids.
One word I can describe Mel is exaggerated.
