My GS finishes Friday and tomorrow it an activity day and they got to choose so it’s water guns
lol
and a free ice cream van and lots of other stuff going on as well
So much she will miss out on but Begda don’t care as long as she is stuffing her face and getting pissed up, last time she was there she got that pissed at the neighbours and fell and bruised herself and made herself look even more a t
I can’t see no fun days and exploring days either it will eat get pissed and repeat what a sad fed up life
The sad thing is, Sevda had caused Ela to be the way she is. Even if Ela has autism or is on the spectrum of some other learning challenge, Her challenges have been grossly enlarged due to Sevda depriving her of a moderate amount of schooling, as well as depriving her of social skills learnt through schooling and mixing with a wide variety of children & teachers, not just Bobby the neighbour and maybe one or two others that very rarely she has seen after school.
Sevda has also stunted Ela’s development by way of keeping her like a toddler. She has a severe lack of age appropriate mental and physical stimulation. She’s permanently on her iPad and even then, watching toddler age shows. It appears her toys are from when she was age 3-4 year and Sevda does not invest in age appropriate toys for Ela. Sevda very, very rarely takes Ela’s to any fun or educational days out. It’s not even a financial issue. Sevda could afford to take Ela to fun places if she wanted to. The point is there is loads they could do and a lot of it does not require much money at all. Even a day out in London with all the free things available for kids… parks, museums, etc. I’m sure even in their local area, there are lots of things on for kids.
The point is… Sevda doesn’t want to take Ela anywhere unless it fits in with what she wants to do. Life is only centred around herself. She’s incredibly selfish and I’m sure Ela has given up asking her Mum if she can go to the places her friends go to with their parents or do the things they do with their parents (creative activities).
Ela talks like a 3 year old, behaves like a 3 year old a lot of the time and yet you can see she has a mean streak in her and I do wonder if she maybe is not as babyish at school. Would be interesting to see. I definitely think Sevda keeps Ela from maturing. It’s plain to see! She doesn’t interact much with her and when she does, it’s very babyish.
Sevda doesn’t do any parenting that requires effort. She does the least she has to do AND that’s with a lot of help from her parents.
I actually believe Sevda has deep rooted issues that stem from her own upbringing that cause her to want to keep Ela from growing up to be mature, vibrant, have lots of friends, be independent and reach her full potential educationally, creatively, as well as socially. It’s almost like Sevda is stunting Ela from going further in life than she has gone (not far at all!)
Tragic.
