Sevda is a b - pretty obvious I can’t stand her
Nether the less I have to say that I wouldn’t put up with Sedat for a husband at all. I get that he doesn’t love to go out but to categorically refuse to go out as a family and/or as a couple all the time is not it either.
What we don’t know is whether he’s just always been like this or whether he’s turned into this because their relationship has broken down over the years. And for one reason or another, neither of them wants to leave. They are both very self absorbed people and seem to have absolutely zero bond between them. You can tell they’re emotionally detached from one another.
I think it absolutely suits Sevda that Sedat stays at home. He clearly has mental delay issues of some kind (which Sevda clearly chose to accept going into the marriage), and as time has gone on, she can’t hide his ways and I think she thinks he now ‘cramps her style’
as well as she looks like she clearly detests him …like she’s some big star!
I agree what tiny bit of relationship they perhaps once did have, has very obviously broken down as she’s become obsessed more & more with social media…and like you say, they now have zero bond between them and are emotionally detached from one another. Sevda tries now & again to lie and put up a front on TikTok, trying to pretend they love each other and get on well.. but it drastically is always way too obvious through Sedat, that it’s all an act. He can’t pull it off. He goes over the top in his ‘acting’ and just sounds totally false! His only interaction to her on TikTok is reacting like a giggly child when she teases (bullies) him. He never holds an adult conversation with her or anyone - just mostly repeats what people say and giggles or says an extremely basic sentence. I don’t say this to put Sedat down. It’s just very clear his social/conversing/mental intelligence is challenged.
Saying all that, however, I get the feeling they will never leave each other …it’s like they have some kind of ‘arrangement’ to stay together for a reason…whether it’s so he can stay in the country or whether it’s for the sake of Ela or they simply agree to be just be just ‘companions’ like Sedat being a ‘lodger’ in the house…so there is another income which is needed. All very sad. He only seems genuinely happy when he’s in Turkey with his parents and few friends there or with his sister, Kuki.
It’s going to only get worse for them both living together as Ela gets older. Ela will be 18 in only 10 more years and moving on in life… and soon after, it will be just Sevda & Sedat in the house, Sevda with, let’s face it, no more TikTok, etc…her days won’t stretch in social media enough to make a decent living.. she’s not got the personality to thrive in it and it’s definitely not a long time career for her. They’ll certainly be no ‘pack lunch’ videos! She’ll be on her own, day in/day out with Sedat and just getting older & older. Has she even thought of going through at least another 40 years with him, I wonder?! Her parents will be getting older and passing away well within that time too, so again, she’ll have no parents to rely on for all they do for her or being so close to relationship wise, way more closer than she is with Sedat!
What a sad state of situation she’ll be living in for many decades to come!