See this is what care..empathy...support and companions is...that she will never give or receive.It definitely is hard at times being in your own head
I am so glad we all saw that post today and now made you feel better. I truly meant what I said, it made me so sad thinking you feeling that waywe overthinking also shows how much we care about things too.
Oh I am the same, I never ever understand why people lieit is just so weird and especially silly ones but they can also be so dangerous can't they.
As well as her lies, manipulation you can just tell Aimee is not a nice person and so many of us see it, just not enough(At the moment!)
I feel so privileged to be part of this little group
On a lighter note have you caught up with Debs the fox ladies cubs ? They are definitely a little pick me up when needed
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I will go and get a fix right now......
This is lovelyNo one is draining at all on here - you’re all a lovely bunch of people
Sorry a few going through some hard times but we all here to listen so never feel alone or afraid to say you need a chat.
Sending hugs to all
I'm also here for anyone else who needs a chat..support or a virtual hug...
No worries lovely 🩷🩷🩷See this is what care..empathy...support and companions is...that she will never give or receive.
Says a lot of about you and the others in your genuine responses. I feel bad for making u all feel bad which wasn't my end game...really.
Yes..we've found our people. In life we all merge together or towards people with the same goals and values. When u can relate to each others concerns and support common "woes"
I think people are gradually seeing her for what she is. Some people/huns are slower (generally lol) to see the selfish creature we all see. You don't necessarily need intelligence...but common sense but there you go....
No..I haven't
Thanks again xxx
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No worries lovely 🩷🩷🩷See this is what care..empathy...support and companions is...that she will never give or receive.
Says a lot of about you and the others in your genuine responses. I feel bad for making u all feel bad which wasn't my end game...really.
Yes..we've found our people. In life we all merge together or towards people with the same goals and values. When u can relate to each others concerns and support common "woes"
I think people are gradually seeing her for what she is. Some people/huns are slower (generally lol) to see the selfish creature we all see. You don't necessarily need intelligence...but common sense but there you go....
No..I haven't
Thanks again xxx
I’ve just caught up in this chat and I totally agree with what everyone has said to you.Hello Jo... Thank you for your kind words and validation
I've always been very honest and open about my flaws/issues/menopausal madness or whatever. I think u are right about catpiss making ppl fearful of admitting their "woes" or troubles as she makes a mockery of MH.
I'm so sorry about what u have been going thru outside of group too and sending u hugs back. Coming off meds or titrating down can be a massive adjustment..mentally and physically.
I wish we cud private message too. Think I said that somewhere. It's so tricky being anonymous in that sense...🥹
I was away from group when u came back i think. I hope u were welcomed back with open arms.
Thanks again for being so warm and understanding. I knew I liked u for a reason
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The Only reason I came back was because I have made a connection (faceless one 🫢) to a lot of you and missed talking to you allI am so glad you came back Jo) xxxx
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Thank you. I'm glad I'm back and I'm glad you are back tooI’ve just caught up in this chat and I totally agree with what everyone has said to you.
I also believe you are strong enough to get through this and doing the right thing
You have to put you first and you’ve already been through so much and you don’t need him.
He knows what he has had to do to better himself but he hasn’t and that is his problem not yours babe
He knows how to manipulate you and is playing with your emotions and as you say he is a narcissist and these games have always worked before.
Believe that the decision you have made is the right one for you, the right one to be free, the right one to be happy too
Hurting for what could have been...the hope I had (or delusion) that he would change. Anyone just wants to be loved and accepted for the right reasons and not be manipulated...controlled and taken advantage of. I so wanted it to work...still do in some crazy way. Walked away from a toxic unhappy marriage of 20 years. On my own for 5 years. Thought i had become stronger and wiser despite my demons I will always carry with me from the past 🥹 Turns out I learned do all allowed myself to be love bombed...lied to and made a fool of. Part of me hates him and part of me still loves him...which I can appreciate sounds crazy! It's like the 2 feelings are constantly having a battle in my head. 
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I second thisI am so glad you came back Jo
Don’t be so hard on yourself, you did learn from past experiences but we are all guilty of falling into old habits, we don’t walk into these situations and say “please treat me like dirt” “please love bomb me” and “please be a narcissistic nob”Thank you. I'm glad I'm back and I'm glad you are back too
You and others have the words of wisdom and clarity. It just hurts still
Part of me wants him to come back to me all fixed and new and start again. I know...🫣
Sorry...another essay...
I'm so glad you are here as well as the others. It's frustrating and a shame that we are all here hiding ourselves cuz of a united cause against a terrible person.
I'm glad I'm here though. Also I hope that you are not still feeling the hurt as a result of others saying those things about you. Words and names hurt!
Please don’t be hard on yourself babe and you are bound to still love him and that will take time to get over. Your feelings don’t just switch off but he has definitely tried to use this against you.Thank you. I'm glad I'm back and I'm glad you are back too
You and others have the words of wisdom and clarity. It just hurts still
Part of me wants him to come back to me all fixed and new and start again. I know...🫣
Sorry...another essay...
I'm so glad you are here as well as the others. It's frustrating and a shame that we are all here hiding ourselves cuz of a united cause against a terrible person.
I'm glad I'm here though. Also I hope that you are not still feeling the hurt as a result of others saying those things about you. Words and names hurt!
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Wow...u should write a book LurkeyDon’t be so hard on yourself, you did learn from past experiences but we are all guilty of falling into old habits, we don’t walk into these situations and say “please treat me like dirt” “please love bomb me” and “please be a narcissistic nob”
They all start of loving, nice and the best person ever! Nobody chooses that life so don’t be so hard on yourself, the most important thing is you saw the red flags and you ran in the opposite direction.
So you did learn the first time, old you stayed for a lot longer previously this time you saw them and exited!
You seem like a lovely soul nosey! Who will go on to have a beautiful life whereas he will always be the rotten apple he always has been and will never have anything good in life! Whereas you will flourish, have friends, have a content happy life!
A narcissist preys on those they’re envious off, he saw the good qualities in you and was jealous to he decided to try and destroy them.
Sending you a BIGGGGGG virtual hug
mean that. I know you are all in my corner. Everyone has lives beyond here! xxx
That's good to hear. We've got your back!Please don’t be hard on yourself babe and you are bound to still love him and that will take time to get over. Your feelings don’t just switch off but he has definitely tried to use this against you.
Like lurker has said you have learnt from the past and seen the red flags and keep thinking with your head and not your heart.
You’ve got this and if he truly loves you like he says he does then he wouldn’t behave the way he has to you and would have made the effort to try make himself better.
I’m absolutely fine now babe and it was the main reason I needed to take time out as it did hurt at the time but I’m glad I have all of you
Sending you lots of virtual hugs and love nosey
and thank you! I do love a hug. Surprised my usually rottweiler boss insisted on giving ne a big hug lol xxxx
Sometimes you need to just get out the thoughts that are in your head that’s fine! And perfectly normal!Wow...u should write a book Lurkey
I should have known as I remember thinking wtf...I'm so lucky. He thinks the world of me etc etc. When i looked back at the messages from 2 years ago (as women do lol) it was clear the controlling...lack of empathy and remorse started nearly from the start..but I thought on balance at least he's in to me and very affectionate etc etc. I think the words trauma bonded are relevant here!
His biggest mistake was slagging off my daughter and telling me what i should say etc to her (he has no kids) and also speaking ill of my furbabies. Big fing mistake! Like..treat me like s and all good but not my animals and my kids lol.
One example towards the end...one of my cats had just settled down on me when he arrived and knocked. I asked my daughter to let him in. He was fuming!! Stood over me and I said..can u not as u are scaring him. He goes..I don't give a do. I was like..Big mistake..get the do out! Anyone who knows me knows we will do anything for our animals. Just cuz I didn't open the door once in 2 years!
Also at the beginning of the relationship...I had a lot go wrong. My car was stolen from work...my dog went missing (taken and returned) then my ex husband had a heart attack and my kids were in bits. I actually stayed with him for 4 hours waiting for ambulance..(long story) wasn't the best time of my life but I had other s/priorities to deal with.
He acted like a needy...petulant..controlling child the whole time. Had no comprehension of what i was going thru and just piled pressure on and made me feel bad and guilty. It was prob a lot for him I guess too in a new relationship, but i didn't ask for that crap! Everyone always says lovely things about me but it just leads to being taken advantage of by some. I also think I need to start liking myself again as that's more important. So hard to do and i guess I am not alone in this. You and the others are such a lovely bunch of coconuts lol
Wow..another long one sorry
I'm not sure who I'm trying to tell about him..think its more me!
Please...no one is under pressure to read or respond to my essays! It's all good. I
WowWow...u should write a book Lurkey
I should have known as I remember thinking wtf...I'm so lucky. He thinks the world of me etc etc. When i looked back at the messages from 2 years ago (as women do lol) it was clear the controlling...lack of empathy and remorse started nearly from the start..but I thought on balance at least he's in to me and very affectionate etc etc. I think the words trauma bonded are relevant here!
His biggest mistake was slagging off my daughter and telling me what i should say etc to her (he has no kids) and also speaking ill of my furbabies. Big fing mistake! Like..treat me like s and all good but not my animals and my kids lol.
One example towards the end...one of my cats had just settled down on me when he arrived and knocked. I asked my daughter to let him in. He was fuming!! Stood over me and I said..can u not as u are scaring him. He goes..I don't give a do. I was like..Big mistake..get the do out! Anyone who knows me knows we will do anything for our animals. Just cuz I didn't open the door once in 2 years!
Also at the beginning of the relationship...I had a lot go wrong. My car was stolen from work...my dog went missing (taken and returned) then my ex husband had a heart attack and my kids were in bits. I actually stayed with him for 4 hours waiting for ambulance..(long story) wasn't the best time of my life but I had other s/priorities to deal with.
He acted like a needy...petulant..controlling child the whole time. Had no comprehension of what i was going thru and just piled pressure on and made me feel bad and guilty. It was prob a lot for him I guess too in a new relationship, but i didn't ask for that crap! Everyone always says lovely things about me but it just leads to being taken advantage of by some. I also think I need to start liking myself again as that's more important. So hard to do and i guess I am not alone in this. You and the others are such a lovely bunch of coconuts lol
Wow..another long one sorry
I'm not sure who I'm trying to tell about him..think its more me!
Please...no one is under pressure to read or respond to my essays! It's all good. I
you are so much better off without him nosey he does not sound like a nice person at all!! Can't believe he didn't have any empathy for your ex husband and what your kids would be going through! You have done the hard bit now and like Jo said it will get easier! 
) come for the fur babies....no no no!! 2 big zero tolerance on both of those!
We've got you JoI
The Only reason I came back was because I have made a connection (faceless one 🫢) to a lot of you and missed talking to you all
You have all helped me more than you realise since I ran to CC and love our little community. I’ve laughed till I’ve pee’d myself and also you’ve all had my back
Thank you for your post, means a lot
Missed you being away and so glad you didn't let it stop you coming back.
Thank you...i just need to keep listening to u guys and then.... (Wow
As for telling you how to handle your own kids, no fing way!! And then (see what I did there
You deserve someone as lovely as you are 🩷 and you owe him nothing!!
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) tell myself to listen to my head and stomach not my heart...xxx
DefinitelyThank you...i just need to keep listening to u guys and then.... (
did you see the Cubs? I want one or 10....
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she will be busy boozing so wants them to shift just eat s and keep quiet.
