I’ve come here for a read to see if I missed anything or if she has changed her name. Please all of you notify us when you are going AWOL or we get worried. Hope you are lurking and just being quiet. Let us know @thelurker66
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Where's bloody Jo when you need a PI eh @MissyI’ve come here for a read to see if I missed anything or if she has changed her name. Please all of you notify us when you are going AWOL or we get worried. Hope you are lurking and just being quiet. Let us know @thelurker66
she'd have her found and returned by now And reported her to various authorities
I felt like @thelurker66 was the voice of reason on here. It’s very strange without her. She did have a lot of s before she went AWOL. Hope that’s not the reason she handled it all amazingly 
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How have I missed this??!Hi my lovely faceless friends
Reading through all the posts really makes me so sad that there are quite a few of us here that have mother issues but also reading through it gives you comfort too (if that's not too weird!!?)
My childhood was mainly spent trying to hide my mum's special brew cans so my dad wouldn't go mad when he came home from work. She never thought she had a issue but I'd say reaching for that type of brew in the morning...I beg to differ! Anyway childhood memories are of her passed out, taking overdoses, trying to slit her wrists and cheating on my dad with his pals! She would leave us to go out drinking with any tom dick or harry and this being the 70's....well you can imagineso my dad left and remarried and had 2 daughters, and his hatred for my mum was far more greater than his love for us, which meant he cut ties completely!! As a daddies girl I was devastated! Anyway I left at 16 and
moved away from all my family but I have managed to get to where I am today ok. It's not been easier but my friends are my family and they get me through any tough times and there has been a few. They are the best 🩷
I have recently reconnected with my dad as unfortunately my little sister was not able to put our upbringing to one side and had a cardiac arrest due to her drug addiction, she was 46I have lots of guilt over her as I left her with my mum when I moved away but I was only 16 and she was 14. When I did see her she was already quite far gone but you always think I should of done more
even after her funeral I was the only one who requested her ashes and scattered them at a place we had some good times on holiday.
So for me, apart from a few pstd moments in my relationship I tend to never look back at my worse times of childhood only remember the few good memories I have with my sisters, cousins and my beautiful dogsI am sure there are other things that affect me because of it but I seem to get by. But this is why I am triggered by Aimee drinking around Harper
As a person I always try and show kindness to everyone and will do anything for anyone but at the same time can flip if there is no respect, or rudeness (bug bear!) and just if you're a sty arse person like Aimee and her t mother !
Anyway I have definitely made up for lack of posting
Love to all that need it and big love to those that don't just because
It's not weird at all...I think it's about finding people who can relate and understand. It also helps validate why things affect us or trigger us.
I really can't relate to my mum or any of your mums and dad's being a mum myself and I'm sure you all feel the same.
I hope it has made us who we are today and that we try to do our best and sometimes that's all we can do.(That's very different to how Aimee sees her best)
I know I have found times hard for various reasons and I wud hv to be a robot to mask some of it!
I'm so sorry twinnie. Made me so sad that you were treated this way. How I read some of that, was that your mum left you in vulnerable situations with the wrong people. This is what happened to my sister and I. If i hv read that wrong...please correct me.....
That's so sad about your sister and shows the person you are for feeling guilty even though those feelings are not justified. You were a child yourself and couldn't possibly have taken a 14 year old with you. It wouldn't be allowed..even though it may hv been what's best for her.
So sorry...
It is not surprising that you..myself and others are triggered or find life fing hard sometimes.
What I can see is a group of warm, caring and empathetic ladies who despite their own past and struggles continue to support myself and others on here.
I'm very grateful to have found you all and connected on emotional levels as well as sharing disgust of Aimme etc. Reactions and triggers just run a lot deeper for a few of us unfortunately.
I'm sorry I didn't see this message. I can only think that it was a bit like when I posted..no notification came up. Here for you anytime and thank you for being you....
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How have I missed this??!
It's not weird at all...I think it's about finding people who can relate and understand. It also helps validate why things affect us or trigger us.
I really can't relate to my mum or any of your mums and dad's being a mum myself and I'm sure you all feel the same.
I hope it has made us who we are today and that we try to do our best and sometimes that's all we can do.(That's very different to how Aimee sees her best)
I know I have found times hard for various reasons and I wud hv to be a robot to mask some of it!
I'm so sorry twinnie. Made me so sad that you were treated this way. How I read some of that, was that your mum left you in vulnerable situations with the wrong people. This is what happened to my sister and I. If i hv read that wrong...please correct me.....
That's so sad about your sister and shows the person you are for feeling guilty even though those feelings are not justified. You were a child yourself and couldn't possibly have taken a 14 year old with you. It wouldn't be allowed..even though it may hv been what's best for her.
So sorry...
It is not surprising that you..myself and others are triggered or find life fing hard sometimes.
What I can see is a group of warm, caring and empathetic ladies who despite their own past and struggles continue to support myself and others on here.
I'm very grateful to have found you all and connected on emotional levels as well as sharing disgust of Aimme etc. Reactions and triggers just run a lot deeper for a few of us unfortunately.
I'm sorry I didn't see this message. I can only think that it was a bit like when I posted..no notification came up. Here for you anytime and thank you for being you....
Ah that's ok twinnie no problem. Think I felt with you and others I could say those things (easier than I thought actually) Yes you are correct with how you read that
I am also so so sorry to hear it was the same for you and your sister it's definitely not something anyone really knows about me in real life. I only told me best friend a few years ago. I also told my son's dad as it was causing problems in certain departments and I needed to explain why I was like that. We were about 12yrs into our 20 yr relationship when I did, but his response was I respected you for not telling me this not what I was expecting to hear. You saying your ex said 'that no wonder your daughter is fed up' reminded me of that It surprised me because my ex is a good caring man but I guess some things some cannot handle. Thank you so much for your kind words twinnie, really means a lot and right back at you
We have such a good bunch here especially on this page, I really do feel a connection to you all
We are all, like you say good caring people and that is what we all have in common. This is why she triggers us even more as we know the impact a sty childhood could have on H. You are right though our mothers at least showed us how not to be a mother!! I can honestly say my son had the childhood of my dreams. I made everything special... Christmas, birthdays, Easter (my personal favourite) he still talks about the parties I use to do for him, not in a show off way but to make an effort to make it as fun for him and all his friends. I absolutely love being a mum and the memories I have from this is enough for me to make up for not having a good childhood myself and because I know he will never feel like that.
I have slightly got holidays blues though today, only downside of holidays eh. Oh but when we pulled up outside our home yesterday morning, my son said to me thanks for a lovely holiday
which makes me smile 
Anyway twinnie are you ok, need to off load or chat ? Xxxxx
I thought as muchAh that's ok twinnie no problem. Think I felt with you and others I could say those things (easier than I thought actually) Yes you are correct with how you read that
It surprised me because my ex is a good caring man but I guess some things some cannot handle. Thank you so much for your kind words twinnie, really means a lot and right back at you
We have such a good bunch here especially on this page, I really do feel a connection to you all
We are all, like you say good caring people and that is what we all have in common. This is why she triggers us even more as we know the impact a sty childhood could have on H. You are right though our mothers at least showed us how not to be a mother!! I can honestly say my son had the childhood of my dreams. I made everything special... Christmas, birthdays, Easter (my personal favourite) he still talks about the parties I use to do for him, not in a show off way but to make an effort to make it as fun for him and all his friends. I absolutely love being a mum and the memories I have from this is enough for me to make up for not having a good childhood myself and because I know he will never feel like that.
I have slightly got holidays blues though today, only downside of holidays eh. Oh but when we pulled up outside our home yesterday morning, my son said to me thanks for a lovely holiday
Anyway twinnie are you ok, need to off load or chat ? Xxxxx
I think it is easier to say things anonymously so to speak. However I do feel comfortable talking to you guys and being honest. On this thread anyway.
After a ton of therapy I realised none of it was my/our fault so I'm not ashamed. I do think it helps u explain how you are and why you get triggered more. So I can relate to this and I had to have these conversations too!
I did not seek help until my daughter was born and realised how much it affected me and also the detrimental effect the s childhood had and that I now could definitely not accept the lack of love and care and also putting your kids at risk. For me also...my mum wasn't the type of person we cud tell with the way she was (and still is!)She made it all about her as per!
Some of the things that my recent ex did that hurt me so much was related to intimacy and what's ol and not ok for me. Threw it back in my face saying " you are different and not like normal women"
I was so so hurt and angry!
For your ex to say what he did is on the list of what not to say to ..........
Your son saying that is so beautiful and to know he was grateful is so lovely and also a testament to you that he acknowledged and appreciated it.
I'm popping on and off here whilst working oops. I will write up about my mum as soon as i can.
Also.. you are welcome. Thank you too. Kindness costs nothing but I can tell you are a good egg lol
xx
Aww that's so sadVirtual friends, I need a vent & I have to let this out to people that aren’t actually in my real life.
So as some of you know I am having a baby & yes we are ecstatic about that, it’s what we have wanted for years, so anyways I had a scan yesterday & my hubby & our girl where there & it was mostly good & then we went home & we gave my mother & father in law the run down & she cooked us a beautiful meal & as we were leaving she said to me quietly “I know Tidge” & I have been crying ever since, I love my mother in law, I met her when I first got with my hubby when we were 13 & she was the one that championed us when we decided to get married at 18 when others said we were too young but she said we were swans & we would be together for life & so far she ain’t been wrong, now you are probably wondering what is this mad mare whining about, well the thing is the only person I wanted yesterday was my mam but she died 3yrs ago & I will never get over it & when my mother in law said that yesterday it was like she knew exactly how I was feeling, it’s just sometimes feels like I shouldn’t be happy but I know my mam would want me to be happy & when she was dying she did tell me I was going to have that baby so I am a blubbing snotty mess & I know I’m being silly & it’s just my hormones so thanks for listening, going to have some Irn bru & starbar & give Gavin a wee stroke.
but bless her for knowing what was in your head and being there for you.I don't think you are being silly at all. Hormones or not is must be like a double edged sword. I'm really sorry about your mum but also glad you have a material figure in your life. Lots of love.
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Missed this too! AwwMorning lovely hags ....a few from Greecenosey the goat in the tree is especially for you 🩵
Swam to the little beach and scared the life out of me when I first saw themwas like a deserted beach it was beautiful
there which was stunning but that was it ....oh and the goats
That looks amazing. So beautiful Reminds of a little island I went to in corfu. Had a little chaple too and a resident peacock!Attachments
Hi all,
Sorry not been on this thread for a while - I read the posts and sending love to all.
My childhood is similar in terms of my mum drinking when I was younger. I have two older siblings and a younger one too. I too remember hiding the Special Brew cans and to this day I can’t have anyone drinking it near me as it a trigger.
My mum has been in recovery for 27 years now - we don’t say she is cured as there could be a day when she decides to drink so we say in recovery. We are very close now but there still hurt there from the past but we building on it everyday.
Sadly similarly to others my older sister turned to drugs too and has caused the family other issues over the year that I will go into another time but I haven’t seen her in over 12 years now.
We use to be really close as kids and I be lying if I said I didn’t miss her but I don’t miss the drama she comes with and the hurt she causes everyone.
Addiction is like a pebble being thrown into a lake - the ripples are all it affects - family, health, work etc.
I just wanted to reach out and say I am always here if anyone needs a chat - I am sorry I haven’t been as active on this thread but I promise to check in more.
Love and hugs to you all
Sorry not been on this thread for a while - I read the posts and sending love to all.
My childhood is similar in terms of my mum drinking when I was younger. I have two older siblings and a younger one too. I too remember hiding the Special Brew cans and to this day I can’t have anyone drinking it near me as it a trigger.
My mum has been in recovery for 27 years now - we don’t say she is cured as there could be a day when she decides to drink so we say in recovery. We are very close now but there still hurt there from the past but we building on it everyday.
Sadly similarly to others my older sister turned to drugs too and has caused the family other issues over the year that I will go into another time but I haven’t seen her in over 12 years now.
We use to be really close as kids and I be lying if I said I didn’t miss her but I don’t miss the drama she comes with and the hurt she causes everyone.
Addiction is like a pebble being thrown into a lake - the ripples are all it affects - family, health, work etc.
I just wanted to reach out and say I am always here if anyone needs a chat - I am sorry I haven’t been as active on this thread but I promise to check in more.
Love and hugs to you all
You don't need to apologise.Hi all,
Sorry not been on this thread for a while - I read the posts and sending love to all.
My childhood is similar in terms of my mum drinking when I was younger. I have two older siblings and a younger one too. I too remember hiding the Special Brew cans and to this day I can’t have anyone drinking it near me as it a trigger.
My mum has been in recovery for 27 years now - we don’t say she is cured as there could be a day when she decides to drink so we say in recovery. We are very close now but there still hurt there from the past but we building on it everyday.
Sadly similarly to others my older sister turned to drugs too and has caused the family other issues over the year that I will go into another time but I haven’t seen her in over 12 years now.
We use to be really close as kids and I be lying if I said I didn’t miss her but I don’t miss the drama she comes with and the hurt she causes everyone.
Addiction is like a pebble being thrown into a lake - the ripples are all it affects - family, health, work etc.
I just wanted to reach out and say I am always here if anyone needs a chat - I am sorry I haven’t been as active on this thread but I promise to check in more.
Love and hugs to you all
The other thread is busy enough and i seem to miss posts on here sometimes. It's crazy the similarities in all of our pasts...
I'm glad your mum is in recovery. You can also tell that you are a lovely person who is a giver not a taker. Seen many posts highlighting this and I remember you being kind to me too.
Welcome back over
xx
**TRIGGER WARNING**....not a pleasant read and swear words and slagging off my narcissistic mother.. Do not want to upset anyone who has lost parents xx
So...... during my spa break with my sister..amongst other things during our catch up...she had news about my/our mum. (use that term loosely)
Firstly...my sister is a lot more tolerant than me and finds peace in ignoring her or not reacting apart from when she goes too far. I admire her but tell her that doesn't mean she should put up with her s.
Last year there was drama as she was refusing to go to my niece's wedding as my sister's foster children were going to be flower girl/page boy. She said that my niece looked huge in her wedding dress and kicked off at everyone because I didn't go and hug her and made it all about her when I was there just as an aunt and didn't want to spoil her day..
I'm gonna try and keep it to the point...but u know me! So at Christmas....apparently my mum (gonna put N for* narc going forward) and my sister in law were getting pissed on prosecco. N opened her big mouth and told my SIL something bad...
My SIL felt awful and cud not keep it to herself understandably amd asked to speak to my sister privately...
So my mum and step dad go away...alot! They regularly go on this private sailboat/cruise thing abroad. Sort of thing with 10 courses to feed her fat face and waited on hand and foot. Basically luxury and snobby!
Turns out one of the waiters added N on fb and they have been messaging for months... he then told her sister needed an operation (
) and needed £500 which my mum sent!!! She said cuz he made her feel desirable and wanted....
Bear in mind...he's a young man and she's a size 24...is 70 years old and isn't pleasing to the eye and is a horrible person.
Apparently that they had a future together...and my step dad was boring and wouldn't give her sex since his operation.. (for fing prostate cancer i may add) That they slept in separate beds...(this is because of her fat neck and has a sleep apnoea machine she refuses to wear so snores!)
After she gave him the money (prob was more but she denied it when my sister lost her s) he ignored her and she was apparently so hurt (
) and kept badgering him until he blocked her!
My step dad is actually one of the funniest...kindest...cleverist human we know so everyone was understandable upset. No one knows why he has put up with her for years...she bullies and berates him in front of everyone. He recently lost his twin who had dementia. (He is 78) and apparently keeps saying..you are going the same way...there is something wrong with you and unbelievably said when are we getting the inheritance I want to book more holidays! ()
My mum lost her s at my SIL for telling my sister and said she was pathetic and how could she. Said that she didnt know what her problem was! (Errrr...) This then caused issues in my brother and her marriage as he found out why my SIL was so withdrawn around Xmas and he thought she was having an affair.
She had to tell him. He lost it with my mum and said u tell him or we will. Apparently she just told him that she felt sorry for him...wanted to help and was silly...
There was a lot more to it than that as u can imagine!!!
She refuses to contact the police or the company as "she does not want him to lose his job...."
He is prob doing this to many women and needs stopping and arresting imo!
The fact my dad does not know the facts makes my blood boil as he deserves better and always has. She's horrible to him and everyone but is now playing the victim and wondering why everyone won't "move on" and why it's "pathetic my brother and SIL are not speaking to her.
Surely my dad must be putting pieces together but I am getting the story from my sister.
I hate her...the N even more now. Its what she does..provokes or causes s or is hurtful then plays victim and wants to "move past it"
I can't do do all about it other than tell u lot and rant away.
Her behaviour has reinforced why i keep the do away from her bur I really want to slap that horrible narc round the face!! Yes..my own 'mother' and I am sorry for those who have lost parents and mean no offence but i can only speak of my N!
I hate her...there i said it!
Believe it or not..that was the shortened version!
And she messaged my sister *after she got back from our spa break to ask if she thought i wud want to speak to her and asked if we had been discussing her!!!
Raving Narcissist!
If you have got this far...sorry and thank you xx
I think I said I wud let a couple of ppl know when I posted @TillyLou and @Standupifyouhateaimee but anyone welcome but please don't judge my views on my mother as u have no idea what she has done..our past and the present. She's no mother of mine.....
Apologies if any typos.. I will correct if i see them. xx
So...... during my spa break with my sister..amongst other things during our catch up...she had news about my/our mum. (use that term loosely)
Firstly...my sister is a lot more tolerant than me and finds peace in ignoring her or not reacting apart from when she goes too far. I admire her but tell her that doesn't mean she should put up with her s.
Last year there was drama as she was refusing to go to my niece's wedding as my sister's foster children were going to be flower girl/page boy. She said that my niece looked huge in her wedding dress and kicked off at everyone because I didn't go and hug her and made it all about her when I was there just as an aunt and didn't want to spoil her day..
I'm gonna try and keep it to the point...but u know me!
So at Christmas....apparently my mum (gonna put N for* narc going forward) and my sister in law were getting pissed on prosecco. N opened her big mouth and told my SIL something bad...My SIL felt awful and cud not keep it to herself understandably amd asked to speak to my sister privately...
So my mum and step dad go away...alot! They regularly go on this private sailboat/cruise thing abroad. Sort of thing with 10 courses to feed her fat face and waited on hand and foot. Basically luxury and snobby!
Turns out one of the waiters added N on fb and they have been messaging for months... he then told her sister needed an operation (
) and needed £500 which my mum sent!!! She said cuz he made her feel desirable and wanted....Bear in mind...he's a young man and she's a size 24...is 70 years old and isn't pleasing to the eye and is a horrible person.
Apparently that they had a future together...and my step dad was boring and wouldn't give her sex since his operation.. (for fing prostate cancer i may add
) That they slept in separate beds...(this is because of her fat neck and has a sleep apnoea machine she refuses to wear so snores!)After she gave him the money (prob was more but she denied it when my sister lost her s) he ignored her and she was apparently so hurt (
) and kept badgering him until he blocked her!My step dad is actually one of the funniest...kindest...cleverist human we know so everyone was understandable upset. No one knows why he has put up with her for years...she bullies and berates him in front of everyone. He recently lost his twin who had dementia. (He is 78) and apparently keeps saying..you are going the same way...there is something wrong with you and unbelievably said when are we getting the inheritance I want to book more holidays! (
)My mum lost her s at my SIL for telling my sister and said she was pathetic and how could she. Said that she didnt know what her problem was! (Errrr...) This then caused issues in my brother and her marriage as he found out why my SIL was so withdrawn around Xmas and he thought she was having an affair.
She had to tell him. He lost it with my mum and said u tell him or we will. Apparently she just told him that she felt sorry for him...wanted to help and was silly...
There was a lot more to it than that as u can imagine!!!
She refuses to contact the police or the company as "she does not want him to lose his job...."
He is prob doing this to many women and needs stopping and arresting imo!
The fact my dad does not know the facts makes my blood boil as he deserves better and always has. She's horrible to him and everyone but is now playing the victim and wondering why everyone won't "move on" and why it's "pathetic my brother and SIL are not speaking to her.
Surely my dad must be putting pieces together but I am getting the story from my sister.
I hate her...the N even more now. Its what she does..provokes or causes s or is hurtful then plays victim and wants to "move past it"
I can't do do all about it other than tell u lot and rant away.
Her behaviour has reinforced why i keep the do away from her bur I really want to slap that horrible narc round the face!! Yes..my own 'mother' and I am sorry for those who have lost parents and mean no offence but i can only speak of my N!
I hate her...there i said it!
Believe it or not..that was the shortened version!
And she messaged my sister *after she got back from our spa break to ask if she thought i wud want to speak to her and asked if we had been discussing her!!!
Raving Narcissist!
If you have got this far...sorry and thank you
xxI think I said I wud let a couple of ppl know when I posted @TillyLou and @Standupifyouhateaimee but anyone welcome but please don't judge my views on my mother as u have no idea what she has done..our past and the present. She's no mother of mine.....
Apologies if any typos.. I will correct if i see them. xx
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Imagine waking up there every morningMissed this too! Aww
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When me and @Standupifyouhateaimee open our animal sanctuary in Greece in years to come..u can all come and visit....if u bring animal food..and cake!Imagine waking up there every morning
Jesus Christ. It’s one thing having a flirt with a lad in his 20s but getting to the point where they are messaging and she thinks she has a future wow! Surely she knew something was a miss? Like hmm what on earth does he want with me? Why would you wanna do things up with a loving husband who has always been there! I hope your stepdad isn’t the type who doesn’t have a voice because hers is so loudSo...... during my spa break with my sister..amongst other things during our catch up...she had news about my/our mum. (use that term loosely)
Firstly...my sister is a lot more tolerant than me and finds peace in ignoring her or not reacting apart from when she goes too far. I admire her but tell her that doesn't mean she should put up with her s.
Last year there was drama as she was refusing to go to my niece's wedding as my sister's foster children were going to be flower girl/page boy. She said that my niece looked huge in her wedding dress and kicked off at everyone because I didn't go and hug her and made it all about her when I was there just as an aunt and didn't want to spoil her day..
I'm gonna try and keep it to the point...but u know me!
My SIL felt awful and cud not keep it to herself understandably amd asked to speak to my sister privately...
So my mum and step dad go away...alot! They regularly go on this private sailboat/cruise thing abroad. Sort of thing with 10 courses to feed her fat face and waited on hand and foot. Basically luxury and snobby!
Turns out one of the waiters added N on fb and they have been messaging for months... he then told her sister needed an operation (
Bear in mind...he's a young man and she's a size 24...is 70 years old and isn't pleasing to the eye and is a horrible person.
Apparently that they had a future together...and my step dad was boring and wouldn't give her sex since his operation.. (for fing prostate cancer i may add
After she gave him the money (prob was more but she denied it when my sister lost her s) he ignored her and she was apparently so hurt (
My step dad is actually one of the funniest...kindest...cleverist human we know so everyone was understandable upset. No one knows why he has put up with her for years...she bullies and berates him in front of everyone. He recently lost his twin who had dementia. (He is 78) and apparently keeps saying..you are going the same way...there is something wrong with you and unbelievably said when are we getting the inheritance I want to book more holidays! (
My mum lost her s at my SIL for telling my sister and said she was pathetic and how could she. Said that she didnt know what her problem was! (Errrr...) This then caused issues in my brother and her marriage as he found out why my SIL was so withdrawn around Xmas and he thought she was having an affair.
She had to tell him. He lost it with my mum and said u tell him or we will. Apparently she just told him that she felt sorry for him...wanted to help and was silly...
There was a lot more to it than that as u can imagine!!!
She refuses to contact the police or the company as "she does not want him to lose his job...."
He is prob doing this to many women and needs stopping and arresting imo!
The fact my dad does not know the facts makes my blood boil as he deserves better and always has. She's horrible to him and everyone but is now playing the victim and wondering why everyone won't "move on" and why it's "pathetic my brother and SIL are not speaking to her.
Surely my dad must be putting pieces together but I am getting the story from my sister.
I hate her...the N even more now. Its what she does..provokes or causes s or is hurtful then plays victim and wants to "move past it"
I can't do do all about it other than tell u lot and rant away.
Her behaviour has reinforced why i keep the do away from her bur I really want to slap that horrible narc round the face!! Yes..my own 'mother' and I am sorry for those who have lost parents and mean no offence but i can only speak of my N!
I hate her...there i said it!
Believe it or not..that was the shortened version!
And she messaged my sister *after she got back from our spa break to ask if she thought i wud want to speak to her and asked if we had been discussing her!!!
Raving Narcissist!
If you have got this far...sorry and thank you
I think I said I wud let a couple of ppl know when I posted @TillyLou and @Standupifyouhateaimee but anyone welcome but please don't judge my views on my mother as u have no idea what she has done..our past and the present. She's no mother of mine.....
Apologies if any typos.. I will correct if i see them. xx
I want to feel sorry that she was basically robbed but I think it was an important lesson to learn! Play with fire you get burned!
And I can’t believe that people think your bro and SIL should “move on” why? Because they say so? They’ll move on when they’re ready to. They’ve every right to be angry at her for making stupid decisions, living in fantasy world and most importantly attempting to have an affair!
I don’t judge your decisions and opinions on your mum at all. I bet you’ve years and years of examples to share on why you’ve made these decisions and opinions
I hope your life continues to be amazing without her in it. You will prosper and fly without the weight of evil dragging you down 🩷
Oh god I’ll need my own plane to bring all the animals back ha! I would love thatWhen me and @Standupifyouhateaimee open our animal sanctuary in Greece in years to come..u can all come and visit....if u bring animal food..and cake!
**TRIGGER WARNING**....not a pleasant read and swear words and slagging off my narcissistic mother.. Do not want to upset anyone who has lost parents xx
So...... during my spa break with my sister..amongst other things during our catch up...she had news about my/our mum. (use that term loosely)
Firstly...my sister is a lot more tolerant than me and finds peace in ignoring her or not reacting apart from when she goes too far. I admire her but tell her that doesn't mean she should put up with her s.
Last year there was drama as she was refusing to go to my niece's wedding as my sister's foster children were going to be flower girl/page boy. She said that my niece looked huge in her wedding dress and kicked off at everyone because I didn't go and hug her and made it all about her when I was there just as an aunt and didn't want to spoil her day..
I'm gonna try and keep it to the point...but u know me!
My SIL felt awful and cud not keep it to herself understandably amd asked to speak to my sister privately...
So my mum and step dad go away...alot! They regularly go on this private sailboat/cruise thing abroad. Sort of thing with 10 courses to feed her fat face and waited on hand and foot. Basically luxury and snobby!
Turns out one of the waiters added N on fb and they have been messaging for months... he then told her sister needed an operation (
Bear in mind...he's a young man and she's a size 24...is 70 years old and isn't pleasing to the eye and is a horrible person.
Apparently that they had a future together...and my step dad was boring and wouldn't give her sex since his operation.. (for fing prostate cancer i may add
After she gave him the money (prob was more but she denied it when my sister lost her s) he ignored her and she was apparently so hurt (
My step dad is actually one of the funniest...kindest...cleverist human we know so everyone was understandable upset. No one knows why he has put up with her for years...she bullies and berates him in front of everyone. He recently lost his twin who had dementia. (He is 78) and apparently keeps saying..you are going the same way...there is something wrong with you and unbelievably said when are we getting the inheritance I want to book more holidays! (
My mum lost her s at my SIL for telling my sister and said she was pathetic and how could she. Said that she didnt know what her problem was! (Errrr...) This then caused issues in my brother and her marriage as he found out why my SIL was so withdrawn around Xmas and he thought she was having an affair.
She had to tell him. He lost it with my mum and said u tell him or we will. Apparently she just told him that she felt sorry for him...wanted to help and was silly...
There was a lot more to it than that as u can imagine!!!
She refuses to contact the police or the company as "she does not want him to lose his job...."
He is prob doing this to many women and needs stopping and arresting imo!
The fact my dad does not know the facts makes my blood boil as he deserves better and always has. She's horrible to him and everyone but is now playing the victim and wondering why everyone won't "move on" and why it's "pathetic my brother and SIL are not speaking to her.
Surely my dad must be putting pieces together but I am getting the story from my sister.
I hate her...the N even more now. Its what she does..provokes or causes s or is hurtful then plays victim and wants to "move past it"
I can't do do all about it other than tell u lot and rant away.
Her behaviour has reinforced why i keep the do away from her bur I really want to slap that horrible narc round the face!! Yes..my own 'mother' and I am sorry for those who have lost parents and mean no offence but i can only speak of my N!
I hate her...there i said it!
Believe it or not..that was the shortened version!
And she messaged my sister *after she got back from our spa break to ask if she thought i wud want to speak to her and asked if we had been discussing her!!!
Raving Narcissist!
If you have got this far...sorry and thank you
I think I said I wud let a couple of ppl know when I posted @TillyLou and @Standupifyouhateaimee but anyone welcome but please don't judge my views on my mother as u have no idea what she has done..our past and the present. She's no mother of mine.....
Apologies if any typos.. I will correct if i see them. xx
Hi lovey,
No one will judge you - I certainly won’t!
Your poor SIL - there no way she could have kept that to herself and seems she has a lot more respect for your dad and family than your own mother has for them.
Men like this man she met on the cruise do this frequently as they target women like this and throw them a line.
Your poor dad - to go through cancer, lose his brother and then have to deal with his wife doing this.
A true N always wants attention on themselves whether it positive or negative.
That why she was asking your sister what you were discussing and it was all about her.
I really hope this is a wake up call for your dad and he leaves her or at least knows his worth.
Big hugs lovey
Hi lovey,
No one will judge you - I certainly won’t!
Your poor SIL - there no way she could have kept that to herself and seems she has a lot more respect for your dad and family than your own mother has for them.
Men like this man she met on the cruise do this frequently as they target women like this and throw them a line.
Your poor dad - to go through cancer, lose his brother and then have to deal with his wife doing this.
A true N always wants attention on themselves whether it positive or negative.
That why she was asking your sister what you were discussing and it was all about her.
I really hope this is a wake up call for your dad and he leaves her or at least knows his worth.
Big hugs lovey
Thank youHi lovey,
No one will judge you - I certainly won’t!
Your poor SIL - there no way she could have kept that to herself and seems she has a lot more respect for your dad and family than your own mother has for them.
Men like this man she met on the cruise do this frequently as they target women like this and throw them a line.
Your poor dad - to go through cancer, lose his brother and then have to deal with his wife doing this.
A true N always wants attention on themselves whether it positive or negative.
That why she was asking your sister what you were discussing and it was all about her.
I really hope this is a wake up call for your dad and he leaves her or at least knows his worth.
Big hugs lovey
I'm so angry. He doesn't even know the facts and I hate to think he doesn't know stuff that others do. I should mention that he's been my dad since I was about 2 years old...so he is my dad.
He worked away a lot so wasn't around much but he 'brought home the bacon'
He's a very calm..passive man...
Does not like confrontation at all. He is not a tactile person at all but he will sit there and listen all day long and give advice. He's funny and doesn't even realise he is. Everyone that meets him loves him. Speaks volumes. My friend and others have witnessed her cruelty and control and attention seeking and her nastiness to him and he must have felt so ashamed.
Apparently my SIL says she knows why i walked away.
Tbh she used to suck up to my mum quite a bit. She's seen the light.
Very brave to tell my sister and my brother. She also thinks the world of my dad as everyone does..
Thanks again