Hi all, I have been trying to reply but my phone is pixilating since it got wet on holiday! Was sw
Faceless Friends
Now it's just doing what it wants 
Basically it's been playing up since it got wet with me swimming in the sea thinking it was safe in a airtight bag
I replied to some on here then it disappears .... So I am back at work tomorrow so will reply properly then so I don't miss anything. Lots of love xx
Basically it's been playing up since it got wet with me swimming in the sea thinking it was safe in a airtight bag
I replied to some on here then it disappears .... So I am back at work tomorrow so will reply properly then so I don't miss anything. Lots of love xx
Oh my darling @StandupifyouhateaimeeHi my lovely faceless friends
Reading through all the posts really makes me so sad that there are quite a few of us here that have mother issues but also reading through it gives you comfort too (if that's not too weird!!?)
My childhood was mainly spent trying to hide my mum's special brew cans so my dad wouldn't go mad when he came home from work. She never thought she had a issue but I'd say reaching for that type of brew in the morning...I beg to differ! Anyway childhood memories are of her passed out, taking overdoses, trying to slit her wrists and cheating on my dad with his pals! She would leave us to go out drinking with any tom dick or harry and this being the 70's....well you can imagineso my dad left and remarried and had 2 daughters, and his hatred for my mum was far more greater than his love for us, which meant he cut ties completely!! As a daddies girl I was devastated! Anyway I left at 16 and
moved away from all my family but I have managed to get to where I am today ok. It's not been easier but my friends are my family and they get me through any tough times and there has been a few. They are the best 🩷
I have recently reconnected with my dad as unfortunately my little sister was not able to put our upbringing to one side and had a cardiac arrest due to her drug addiction, she was 46I have lots of guilt over her as I left her with my mum when I moved away but I was only 16 and she was 14. When I did see her she was already quite far gone but you always think I should of done more
even after her funeral I was the only one who requested her ashes and scattered them at a place we had some good times on holiday.
So for me, apart from a few pstd moments in my relationship I tend to never look back at my worse times of childhood only remember the few good memories I have with my sisters, cousins and my beautiful dogsI am sure there are other things that affect me because of it but I seem to get by. But this is why I am triggered by Aimee drinking around Harper
As a person I always try and show kindness to everyone and will do anything for anyone but at the same time can flip if there is no respect, or rudeness (bug bear!) and just if you're a sty arse person like Aimee and her t mother !
Anyway I have definitely made up for lack of posting
Love to all that need it and big love to those that don't just because
Just thought I'd pop over here, see if I've missed anything and just seen this. Sounds so painful and I'm so sorry you had to deal with all that, and always will I imagine. Please don't feel guilty you were a child and your sister will have known that too. I think what you did was incredibly brave
It's never easy breaking the cycle and I can't imagine at that age. You had to do what was right for you. I'm so sorry for your loss 
but again don't feel guilty. Addiction is evil and I think even if you were there every minute sometimes it's not enough. A very close friend of mine struggled badly and I tried so hard for her. It got to the point I had to step back because it's true, if they want to they will! I couldn't babysit an adult. She did want to stop but it was too late and she checked out Just please know what you did for your Sister at the end was so beautiful and she knows and loves you so much The things we're faced with really do shape us and I really hope you know what a special soul you are. I don't know you but know you're incredibly kind, funny and a wonderful mother
Your son is blessed to have you. Working hard to give him the things you didn't have. Not to mention so much love! I don't have favourites on here 
I have a mental list of people's msgs I always relate to or howl at. People I know would be incredible friends and needless to say you're on my 'list' I'm proud to even just virtually 'know' you. Never forget you're a wonderful human 
Sorry I haven’t been around guys!! Thanks for the love I have seen it all! Don’t worry I’ll be back to my usual antics soon! 
@itsadogslife @allaboardthebirkeybike @Missy @noseyneighbour
There the main ones I’ve seen!
Thank you
I have seen it all! Don’t worry I’ll be back to my usual antics soon! @itsadogslife @allaboardthebirkeybike @Missy @noseyneighbour
There the main ones I’ve seen!
Thank you
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Lurkey!!!!Sorry I haven’t been around guys!! Thanks for the love
@thelurker66 So lovely to see your name. We miss you. Take whatever time you need. Hope everything is OK
Everything is ok, I just needed a breather! And didn’t really have much to say which unlike me! But I have been readingLurkey!!!!
So lovely to see your name. We miss you. Take whatever time you need. Hope everything is OK
Has @RosieJo been on? Or did she mention going away anyone know? Not seen her either. In my mind I'm guessing she's gone into meltdown mode because it's Swift month 
and she needs to rethink her outfits decisions because Panther wasn't a fan 
Hope you're OK if you see this
I mean she wasn't a fan of mine so I'll be still wearing it with knobs on because I'm that b
and she needs to rethink her outfits decisions because Panther wasn't a fan Hope you're OK if you see this I mean she wasn't a fan of mine so I'll be still wearing it with knobs on because I'm that b
Yay! Hope you are ok and hopefully "see you" soonSorry I haven’t been around guys!! Thanks for the love
@itsadogslife @allaboardthebirkeybike @Missy @noseyneighbour
There the main ones I’ve seen!
Thank you
@Standupifyouhateaimee asked too.... she's alive!
♀
I can't be sure about his age other than he was young. So inappropriate especially my poor dad..Jesus Christ. It’s one thing having a flirt with a lad in his 20s but getting to the point where they are messaging and she thinks she has a future wow! Surely she knew something was a miss? Like hmm what on earth does he want with me? Why would you wanna do things up with a loving husband who has always been there! I hope your stepdad isn’t the type who doesn’t have a voice because hers is so loud
I want to feel sorry that she was basically robbed but I think it was an important lesson to learn! Play with fire you get burned!
And I can’t believe that people think your bro and SIL should “move on” why? Because they say so? They’ll move on when they’re ready to. They’ve every right to be angry at her for making stupid decisions, living in fantasy world and most importantly attempting to have an affair!
I don’t judge your decisions and opinions on your mum at all. I bet you’ve years and years of examples to share on why you’ve made these decisions and opinions
I hope your life continues to be amazing without her in it. You will prosper and fly without the weight of evil dragging you down 🩷
My dad doesn't have a voice
she gets very aggressive verbally and plays victim so that's that. It has always been the same with her. Takes zero accountability. Genuine Narc! My dad just wants a quiet life. Poor bloke!I dont feel sorry for her. Don't know how she could be so stupid and deluded and also not consider my dad. To blame him for it all...again raging Narc!
It's the fact she doesn't see why my SIL told my sister and thinks everyone shud just move on... again her traits!
The fact she doesn't want to get the lad in question in trouble is also worrying.
I think there is more to it and what she's done and how much she sent. Makes sense why she wants it all to go away. Very manipulative...again.. that's her!
I've accepted she will never change or acknowledge her part in what happened to us and also the sty parenting. I'm done with her..end of!!
Thank you for reading and responding
@thelurker66 oh I am glad to see your name! Just knowing you’re ok is good enough for me I thought you’d thrown the towel in and your trolling days were over I’m happy to hear you’re still a troll queen 
🧌
@noseyneighbour I’m so glad you’ve done what’s best for you and that’s cutting her off. I know it couldn’t be easy. And I’m sure you’ve had many people around you tell you you can’t do that because ‘she’s your mum’.
I read everyone’s posts here and I’m sending you all lots of love, I don’t respond all the time to them because honestly I have to be in the mood to type a lot ha, and I’m not someone who can have a quick conversation I talk A LOT. I’m a voice note girlie wish I could send them here.
Love to you all 🩷
I’m happy to hear you’re still a troll queen 🧌 @noseyneighbour I’m so glad you’ve done what’s best for you and that’s cutting her off. I know it couldn’t be easy. And I’m sure you’ve had many people around you tell you you can’t do that because ‘she’s your mum’.
I read everyone’s posts here and I’m sending you all lots of love, I don’t respond all the time to them because honestly I have to be in the mood to type a lot ha, and I’m not someone who can have a quick conversation I talk A LOT. I’m a voice note girlie
wish I could send them here.Love to you all 🩷
I can't be sure about his age other than he was young. So inappropriate especially my poor dad..
My dad doesn't have a voice
I dont feel sorry for her. Don't know how she could be so stupid and deluded and also not consider my dad. To blame him for it all...again raging Narc!
It's the fact she doesn't see why my SIL told my sister and thinks everyone shud just move on... again her traits!
The fact she doesn't want to get the lad in question in trouble is also worrying.
I think there is more to it and what she's done and how much she sent. Makes sense why she wants it all to go away. Very manipulative...again.. that's her!
I've accepted she will never change or acknowledge her part in what happened to us and also the sty parenting. I'm done with her..end of!!
Thank you for reading and responding
Hey lovely, I’ve only just got around to reading your post and I just wanted to send my love to you
there is no judgement whatsoever at your feelings towards your ‘mother’. I’ve read everyone’s replies to you and completely agree with them all. I can imagine how much of a shock it was to hear from your sister. I suppose you need a relaxing spa day to get over the not so relaxing spa day you’ve just had 
hope you’re doing ok.And to everyone else who has joined in on the group, just want to send you all love too
it’s amazing that we are all very similar and able to support each other xx
ThanksHey lovely, I’ve only just got around to reading your post and I just wanted to send my love to you
And to everyone else who has joined in on the group, just want to send you all love too
You're right....time to book another one
Agree about the group
xx
Don’t worry Jackie, we are in this together@thelurker66 oh I am glad to see your name! Just knowing you’re ok is good enough for me I thought you’d thrown the towel in and your trolling days were over
@noseyneighbour I’m so glad you’ve done what’s best for you and that’s cutting her off. I know it couldn’t be easy. And I’m sure you’ve had many people around you tell you you can’t do that because ‘she’s your mum’.
I read everyone’s posts here and I’m sending you all lots of love, I don’t respond all the time to them because honestly I have to be in the mood to type a lot ha, and I’m not someone who can have a quick conversation I talk A LOT. I’m a voice note girlie
Love to you all 🩷
Hey twinnie ....haha no you didn't brake itI can't be sure about his age other than he was young. So inappropriate especially my poor dad..
My dad doesn't have a voice
I dont feel sorry for her. Don't know how she could be so stupid and deluded and also not consider my dad. To blame him for it all...again raging Narc!
It's the fact she doesn't see why my SIL told my sister and thinks everyone shud just move on... again her traits!
The fact she doesn't want to get the lad in question in trouble is also worrying.
I think there is more to it and what she's done and how much she sent. Makes sense why she wants it all to go away. Very manipulative...again.. that's her!
I've accepted she will never change or acknowledge her part in what happened to us and also the sty parenting. I'm done with her..end of!!
Thank you for reading and responding
it's a bloody nightmare and took about 4hrs to charge today ! Need to get it fixed but this will be the 4th one in a year I've broke I started to reply to a post last night, typed loads then it disappeared so frustrating! Anyhow going to try and reply now 
I don't think anyone judges you here at all only admire/applaud you for not standing for it and the values you have regarding it. It is shocking behavior from you mum! The young lad thing is wrong on so many levels, and even before you said too much I knew it would be a scam thing he does to loads of women! Your dad sounds an amazing man and dad. Doesn't deserve it at all and just shocking what your mum expects of him after surgery for what he had
do you think he knows but turns a blind eye to try and keep her or keep her happy? I feel for your SIL that couldn't of been easy for her at all. I think they think they have the right to treat us badly but we have to respect them and bow down to them because they gave birth to us! It amazes me how much they think we owe them. I personally think you are right to keep your distance. I don't hate my mum but I don't have anything to do with her either. She use to be able to start an argument in an empty room when she was drunk and I don't think that's changed. Last time I saw her was at my sister's funeral but it was hard as I felt for her as regardless of her being a s mum she was grieving and it must of been hard for her. My older sister was slagging her off and winding my dad up (who couldn't even look at her!) and they were both laying into her on the drive home but I didn't like that as I didn't think on that particular day should be about slating her, it was about saying goodbye to my beautiful little sister
Do you think your mum sent more than she said? Sounds like she probably did. Also is she embarrassed at all and that's why she won't report him or does she still believe maybe he will be in touch again?
What a godsend your dad must of been for you growing up. Honestly do you think it was how they were raised when they were younger that most of our mums are very similar, like that generation wasn't shown much love! My nan wasn't very lovey dovey with my mum, east ender so that type of generation and my mum's dad died when she was 2. Her brother is a wrongun and her sister was scary as fook...like some mafia wife
That saying you only get one mum, well just as well with ours eh!!
Anyway hope you are not too tired from work.
Oh and that little bay with the goats would be perfect for our retreat... Only reachable by boat
perfect just our crew and animals
Omg this just reduced me to tears but in a good wayOh my darling @Standupifyouhateaimee
Just thought I'd pop over here, see if I've missed anything and just seen this. Sounds so painful and I'm so sorry you had to deal with all that, and always will I imagine. Please don't feel guilty you were a child and your sister will have known that too. I think what you did was incredibly brave
The things we're faced with really do shape us and I really hope you know what a special soul you are. I don't know you but know you're incredibly kind, funny and a wonderful mother
what a lovely post and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for it I am so sorry to read about your good friend
that must of been so hard for you but like you say you can't babysit an adult and if they want to they will do it Thank you again for your lovely post it really does mean a lot
I feel I know you which I know is crazy but I just know you'd be an amazing friend to have ! ... with your humour (funny as do) your values, the way you have empathy for others and of course being a football fanatic ! I also 100% do not have favourites (except I do and you are definitely one of them 
)I would love to go to an england game with you or even just to a pub garden to watch a match ....I love my mates and watch England's games with them ....but they bloody do the girlie thing and chat all the way through it
I thought as much
I think it is easier to say things anonymously so to speak. However I do feel comfortable talking to you guys and being honest. On this thread anyway.
After a ton of therapy I realised none of it was my/our fault so I'm not ashamed. I do think it helps u explain how you are and why you get triggered more. So I can relate to this and I had to have these conversations too!I did not seek help until my daughter was born and realised how much it affected me and also the detrimental effect the s childhood had and that I now could definitely not accept the lack of love and care and also putting your kids at risk. For me also...my mum wasn't the type of person we cud tell with the way she was (and still is!)
She made it all about her as per!
Some of the things that my recent ex did that hurt me so much was related to intimacy and what's ol and not ok for me. Threw it back in my face saying " you are different and not like normal women"
I was so so hurt and angry!
For your ex to say what he did is on the list of what not to say to ..........
Your son saying that is so beautiful and to know he was grateful is so lovely and also a testament to you that he acknowledged and appreciated it.
I'm popping on and off here whilst working oops. I will write up about my mum as soon as i can.
Also.. you are welcome. Thank you too. Kindness costs nothing but I can tell you are a good egg lol
Sorry twinnie I missed this too. Thank you
I'm so sorry to read this I know we joke about twinning but it really seems to be we had identical childhoods
It is really strange as I've said more on here than I think I've ever said to friends re stuff. Maybe it is like therapy and feel comfortable saying it on here which actually says a lots about us and how we make each other feel. I definitely only feel comfortable saying it here (which is weird as I know anyone can read
) I glad therapy helped you. I never thought of that before and just tried to block it out but reading what you said I do think it may be feeling ashamed and like it was my/our fault, which I guess is not uncommon to feel that way. I think in the end it was one of the factors of my breakdown in my relationship as we constant argue about intimacy issues. I am sorry to hear your ex said things like that to you no wonder you were hurt and angry. I feel you have helped me just by what you say, it's help I didn't think I needed
I feel you are an amazing person and don't you forget it!! You are an amazing mother, sister and I know you would be an amazing friend to have 
also you are the best bloody twinnie I could of hoped for on here 
Thank you for saying that about my son 🩵 he is a good egg, bloody moody teenage boy at times
but he's always polite to others, kind and thankful for what I do for him Anyway best get some sleep
xxxx
Oh wowMissed this too! Aww
Greece really is beautiful isn't it. It's lovely how the little chapels are everywhere isn't it. Like that little bay.....just the goats and chapel 
....and us in a few years, be like Noah's arc anchoring up
Hi all,
Sorry not been on this thread for a while - I read the posts and sending love to all.
My childhood is similar in terms of my mum drinking when I was younger. I have two older siblings and a younger one too. I too remember hiding the Special Brew cans and to this day I can’t have anyone drinking it near me as it a trigger.
My mum has been in recovery for 27 years now - we don’t say she is cured as there could be a day when she decides to drink so we say in recovery. We are very close now but there still hurt there from the past but we building on it everyday.
Sadly similarly to others my older sister turned to drugs too and has caused the family other issues over the year that I will go into another time but I haven’t seen her in over 12 years now.
We use to be really close as kids and I be lying if I said I didn’t miss her but I don’t miss the drama she comes with and the hurt she causes everyone.
Addiction is like a pebble being thrown into a lake - the ripples are all it affects - family, health, work etc.
I just wanted to reach out and say I am always here if anyone needs a chat - I am sorry I haven’t been as active on this thread but I promise to check in more.
Love and hugs to you all
So sorry to read this too
It's so hard isn't it, like you feel the person is there in body but not the person they were. I think we all feel so guilty but in reality they are adults and when you don't normally have that kind of drama, you have to put your own family first don't you.
Can't believe it was special brew with your mum too but saying that it has such a high alcohol volume, so I can see why. Your mum has done great for 27yrs sober/recovery and it's good you are close now but the trauma never really goes does it.
I remember being sent to the shop for 4 cans and fags many a time
God I must of been no older than 5 crazy that kids were allowed to buy those and even go to the shop alone!! I always try and see a funny side of things (gets me through) and I always laugh at 5yr old me when I think of my first trip to the shop for her cigarettes and alcohol. I was head deep in the freezer, feet off the ground looking for "lamb"bert and Butlers
thought she was sending me for the lamb for dinner Anyway love to you too and ditto if you ever need to chat