Hey guys… bit of a different question here.
Has anyone ever experienced times when you feel like you are kind of falling out of love with your husband, or just feeling like the the feelings we once had are just disappearing?
I feel like we are just 2 people living together as friends. There are times when he really can infuriate me.
When the kids are playing up he shouts at them so loudly which triggers the PTSD I have from growing up with a father who was forever shouting at me with a raised voice.
There’s just no need for it. When the kids are playing up for me, I reason with them, talk to them in a calm manor and ask them to stop what they are doing. He always complains at me that they never do as he says but they do with me. And it just shows that the difference in how we parent contributes to how things can be resolved. Kids are kids, sometimes they will play up, start arguing between themselves etc, but he just raises his voice which I tell him he has to stop. But they sort things out eventually with me reacting in a manor which isn’t to shout at the top of my voice.
I just don’t think I can cope with it anymore. I’ve told him multiple times that he needs to stop which he does for a short while then goes back to how he was. He never likes being called out about things, he goes very defensive and starts shouting.
What am I going to do? It triggers me so much and he knows that. I hate the loud shouting, there’s no need for it. Shouting at the top of your voice is not going to do anything, that’s very apparent.
I just don’t know what to do