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Hi my lovely faceless friends
Reading through all the posts really makes me so sad that there are quite a few of us here that have mother issues but also reading through it gives you comfort too (if that's not too weird!!?)
My childhood was mainly spent trying to hide my mum's special brew cans so my dad wouldn't go mad when he came home from work. She never thought she had a issue but I'd say reaching for that type of brew in the morning...I beg to differ! Anyway childhood memories are of her passed out, taking overdoses, trying to slit her wrists and cheating on my dad with his pals! She would leave us to go out drinking with any tom dick or harry and this being the 70's....well you can imagine so my dad left and remarried and had 2 daughters, and his hatred for my mum was far more greater than his love for us, which meant he cut ties completely!! As a daddies girl I was devastated! Anyway I left at 16 and
moved away from all my family but I have managed to get to where I am today ok. It's not been easier but my friends are my family and they get me through any tough times and there has been a few. They are the best 🩷
I have recently reconnected with my dad as unfortunately my little sister was not able to put our upbringing to one side and had a cardiac arrest due to her drug addiction, she was 46 I have lots of guilt over her as I left her with my mum when I moved away but I was only 16 and she was 14. When I did see her she was already quite far gone but you always think I should of done more even after her funeral I was the only one who requested her ashes and scattered them at a place we had some good times on holiday.
So for me, apart from a few pstd moments in my relationship I tend to never look back at my worse times of childhood only remember the few good memories I have with my sisters, cousins and my beautiful dogs I am sure there are other things that affect me because of it but I seem to get by. But this is why I am triggered by Aimee drinking around Harper
As a person I always try and show kindness to everyone and will do anything for anyone but at the same time can flip if there is no respect, or rudeness (bug bear!) and just if you're a sty arse person like Aimee and her t mother !
Anyway I have definitely made up for lack of posting

Love to all that need it and big love to those that don't just because xxxx

Standupifyouhateaimee said:

Nosey sorry to see you had a sty couple of days are things a little better for you now?
That sty comment from a partner is really really sty and thank do you are not with him now !!
You are the most beautiful soul and deserve that back ten fold!! Also you are my heroe for the work you have done and continue go do for animals
The best people always are animals lovers
But please do not come to Rhodes, you will need a plane to yourself to bring home all the strays

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A bit better thanks but bit up and down.
Thanks for your kind words twinnie
agree about animal lovers!

Hope you are having a fantastic time? Haven't caught up with any other posts yet. Was starting to worry when saw you hadn't been on but understandable being away!

Don't get me started on animals abroad. Me and my daughter always smeak food out of the hotel for the cats. Then breaks my heart when we have to leave them. One of the most rewarding things I hv done was fundraised for a "cat cafe" in Fuerteventura. These are animals shelters/food stations. We went and visited it and a plaque had been put on it from the cat rescue I worked with who helped raise funds. Can't say the name as it wud give my location away. xx

Standupifyouhateaimee said:

No one can seriously be still thinking you're not legit
You carry on being the fabulous, funny, and caring you 🩷🩷🩷

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I hope all good now. I had responded to an earlier comment that I had missed I think. I will always be me... 'pleasantly confused' which some will remember the meaning of this lol 🫣

Standupifyouhateaimee said:

Hi twinnie I'm ok just on a high speed boat to symi island at the moment....I love it, wind in my hair can you imagine shamey on here!!
I'm having a great time thank you, and I have been speed reading when I can but so much to see and do I have no idea how Aimee never puts her phone down on holidays (or ever!! )
How are you? I hope you are ok I will hopefully have some time tomo to properly reply as having a day a complete day at the hotel.
Anyway hope you have a good day and speak to you soon. Oh and thought of you with this little fella

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Oh look at him. He looks my Harley bear. Will try add some pics of him when we rescued them. He is a little bit brain damaged we think..looks worried all the time...always cries all the time for attention
* Sory got carried away uploading! One of the first pictures is my daughter in brambles trying to get them out. She was covered in scratches and bites! They nearly didn't make it.

You shouldn't have your phone out on a speedboat missy! 🫣
Glad you are having a lovely time. Is it nice and hot? xx

Muggle said:

Thanks Nosey. I'm still not sure if I'm visiting my mum for her sake, or for mine, so I dont feel guilty for abandoning her in a home. I don't think I'm a bad person, although I can be a bit too blunt sometimes, and say things how they are without thinking how it may hurt someone, which I really dont intend to do. But then I am bad, cos I wish my mother would pass away, so I dont need to be responsible for her. It cant be much quality of life for her now anyway, mind you she never did anything to improve her life when she had the capacity and physical capability, she always wanted everyone else to run around and wait on her. I dont want to be like her, but I know I have her lazy traits, and its a constant struggle to kick myself up the arse and go out and do things, rather than sit and rot on my sofa all the time.
And there I go, ranting again! Sorry, just having a rough few days at the mo x

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1. Don't apologise for ranting...honestly
2. You are not a bad person for being honest.
3. People reap what they sow unfortunately and just cuz they are 'parents' doesn't mean they aren't responsible for their own actions and the repercussions of them.
4. I can relate to feeling negatively towards mothers for reasons previously mentioned
You are safe here to be honest without judgement. (Certainly not from me anyway)

Virtual friends, I need a vent & I have to let this out to people that aren’t actually in my real life.
So as some of you know I am having a baby & yes we are ecstatic about that, it’s what we have wanted for years, so anyways I had a scan yesterday & my hubby & our girl where there & it was mostly good & then we went home & we gave my mother & father in law the run down & she cooked us a beautiful meal & as we were leaving she said to me quietly “I know Tidge” & I have been crying ever since, I love my mother in law, I met her when I first got with my hubby when we were 13 & she was the one that championed us when we decided to get married at 18 when others said we were too young but she said we were swans & we would be together for life & so far she ain’t been wrong, now you are probably wondering what is this mad mare whining about, well the thing is the only person I wanted yesterday was my mam but she died 3yrs ago & I will never get over it & when my mother in law said that yesterday it was like she knew exactly how I was feeling, it’s just sometimes feels like I shouldn’t be happy but I know my mam would want me to be happy & when she was dying she did tell me I was going to have that baby so I am a blubbing snotty mess & I know I’m being silly & it’s just my hormones so thanks for listening, going to have some Irn bru & starbar & give Gavin a wee stroke.

noseyneighbour said:

A bit better thanks but bit up and down.
Thanks for your kind words twinnie
agree about animal lovers!

Hope you are having a fantastic time? Haven't caught up with any other posts yet. Was starting to worry when saw you hadn't been on but understandable being away!

Don't get me started on animals abroad. Me and my daughter always smeak food out of the hotel for the cats. Then breaks my heart when we have to leave them. One of the most rewarding things I hv done was fundraised for a "cat cafe" in Fuerteventura. These are animals shelters/food stations. We went and visited it and a plaque had been put on it from the cat rescue I worked with who helped raise funds. Can't say the name as it wud give my location away. xx

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You're welcome twinnie glad a bit better but hope the up becomes more than the down days
It's so sad to see the animals isn't it haven't seen any dogs yet but came home tonight and there is shrubs at the front of the pool of our suite and a kitten ran out, then another then another I tried to see if I could see them but they were so scared and just run off. I'd totally being given them food if I could. I was at the having a latte and flapjack yesterday and made sure I scattered all the crumbs for the birds (also that annoying person who feeds the seagulls )Also the birds keep skimming our pool for a drink so I put water out for them just little things that is amazing what you done, raising money for a cat cafe...what an amazing achievement and such a lovely thing to see it too
Having such a good time, last full day and night tomorrow I think this is the least I've ever been on my phone whilst away. It's hard to read with my eyesight (getting worse as I get older) let alone in the sunshine. Can only really see it when I am inside but that's not often. It's 130am here now so just catching up on here and vav's and the whole trump guilty verdict ... Still a couple of horrible fwits! And trump is up there with those 2 too Xxxx

noseyneighbour said:

Oh look at him. He looks my Harley bear. Will try add some pics of him when we rescued them. He is a little bit brain damaged we think..looks worried all the time...always cries all the time for attention
* Sory got carried away uploading! One of the first pictures is my daughter in brambles trying to get them out. She was covered in scratches and bites! They nearly didn't make it.

You shouldn't have your phone out on a speedboat missy! 🫣
Glad you are having a lovely time. Is it nice and hot? xx

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Oh wow how beautiful so cute and look at him now bet he loves cuddles. I truly think you are amazing for rescuing him and the others
It is hot but quite breezy which I love. I've never been to anywhere on holiday that is in the north and it's weird you chase the sun thankfully from our patio area it's better than down at the beach. Today we had a suite day in and it's actually been one of the best days. Like we have our own pool so no looking for best situated loungers, just go for food, we have all the soft drinks in the mini bar but the beach bar is right near us if a cocktail is fancied xxx

Olgacatpissyswampypig said:

Virtual friends, I need a vent & I have to let this out to people that aren’t actually in my real life.
So as some of you know I am having a baby & yes we are ecstatic about that, it’s what we have wanted for years, so anyways I had a scan yesterday & my hubby & our girl where there & it was mostly good & then we went home & we gave my mother & father in law the run down & she cooked us a beautiful meal & as we were leaving she said to me quietly “I know Tidge” & I have been crying ever since, I love my mother in law, I met her when I first got with my hubby when we were 13 & she was the one that championed us when we decided to get married at 18 when others said we were too young but she said we were swans & we would be together for life & so far she ain’t been wrong, now you are probably wondering what is this mad mare whining about, well the thing is the only person I wanted yesterday was my mam but she died 3yrs ago & I will never get over it & when my mother in law said that yesterday it was like she knew exactly how I was feeling, it’s just sometimes feels like I shouldn’t be happy but I know my mam would want me to be happy & when she was dying she did tell me I was going to have that baby so I am a blubbing snotty mess & I know I’m being silly & it’s just my hormones so thanks for listening, going to have some Irn bru & starbar & give Gavin a wee stroke.

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Aww giving you a big virtue hug and sending you lots of love. It's so lovely you get on so well with your mother in law, she seems lovely and to know exactly how you were feeling it must be very bitter sweet for you with the scan I can imagine that your mum was there with you in some way and feeling proud, maybe even saying 'see I told you' if I remember rightly are you having a boy? Not sure what your mums name was but could you try to honour her in some way with a name, middle name perhaps? 🩷🩵
Aww little Gavin is a sweetheart.....he pisses all over Aimee's support bear

Xx

Morning lovely hags ....a few from Greece nosey the goat in the tree is especially for you 🩵
Swam to the little beach and scared the life out of me when I first saw them was like a deserted beach it was beautiful there was a little chapel there which was stunning but that was it ....oh and the goats

Standupifyouhateaimee said:

Morning lovely hags ....a few from Greece nosey the goat in the tree is especially for you 🩵
Swam to the little beach and scared the life out of me when I first saw them was like a deserted beach it was beautiful there was a little chapel there which was stunning but that was it ....oh and the goats

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How beautiful I’m so jealous

Hello everyone, please may I join this thread? I normally post on Seagulls thread but I was having a nosey and had a quick read at what you’ve all posted.

Pretty In Pink said:

Hello everyone, please may I join this thread? I normally post on Seagulls thread but I was having a nosey and had a quick read at what you’ve all posted.

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Of course you can it’s lovely having like minded people who understand. And I guess it’s like validating your own experiences and knowing that it wasn’t our fault for how we are feeling or what we have been through. It’s like having virtual therapy

Hiya guys, I’ve not been on properly in a few days, hope you are all doing ok?
I can’t remember if it was in this group or Olgas where I saw someone say that them and their mother are like frenemy’s, and I thought to myself that is exactly what it’s like! That the perfect word to describe me and my mam!
I was meant to go to my brothers yesterday for my nieces birthday and I ended up not going because I was getting such bad anxiety as my mam and dad would be there. I wasn’t in the mood for the fakeness and patronising conversations with her. She would’ve found something to talk about to put me down and pick at

Standupifyouhateaimee said:

Oh wow how beautiful so cute and look at him now bet he loves cuddles. I truly think you are amazing for rescuing him and the others
It is hot but quite breezy which I love. I've never been to anywhere on holiday that is in the north and it's weird you chase the sun thankfully from our patio area it's better than down at the beach. Today we had a suite day in and it's actually been one of the best days. Like we have our own pool so no looking for best situated loungers, just go for food, we have all the soft drinks in the mini bar but the beach bar is right near us if a cocktail is fancied xxx

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Sounds amazing. I'm glad it was what u hoped for. A nice breeze is good but u can burn if not careful. I found out this in Fuerteventura!
Safe journey back. What time is your flight? xx

Standupifyouhateaimee said:

You're welcome twinnie glad a bit better but hope the up becomes more than the down days
It's so sad to see the animals isn't it haven't seen any dogs yet but came home tonight and there is shrubs at the front of the pool of our suite and a kitten ran out, then another then another I tried to see if I could see them but they were so scared and just run off. I'd totally being given them food if I could. I was at the having a latte and flapjack yesterday and made sure I scattered all the crumbs for the birds (also that annoying person who feeds the seagulls )Also the birds keep skimming our pool for a drink so I put water out for them just little things that is amazing what you done, raising money for a cat cafe...what an amazing achievement and such a lovely thing to see it too
Having such a good time, last full day and night tomorrow I think this is the least I've ever been on my phone whilst away. It's hard to read with my eyesight (getting worse as I get older) let alone in the sunshine. Can only really see it when I am inside but that's not often. It's 130am here now so just catching up on here and vav's and the whole trump guilty verdict ... Still a couple of horrible fwits! And trump is up there with those 2 too Xxxx

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Aww how lovely ‍
That's not a bad thing not being on your phone and I remember how difficult it us to see in the bright sun. I'm often under an umbrella reading lol so not so bad. I'm taking 3 books but unlike Aimee I will read at least 2! Only time I really read is when I go away.
Enjoy every last moment there!

Standupifyouhateaimee said:

Aww giving you a big virtue hug and sending you lots of love. It's so lovely you get on so well with your mother in law, she seems lovely and to know exactly how you were feeling it must be very bitter sweet for you with the scan I can imagine that your mum was there with you in some way and feeling proud, maybe even saying 'see I told you' if I remember rightly are you having a boy? Not sure what your mums name was but could you try to honour her in some way with a name, middle name perhaps? 🩷🩵
Aww little Gavin is a sweetheart.....he pisses all over Aimee's support bear

Xx

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Thanks for your kind words you beautiful soul.
She really is a good woman & I’m lucky to have her. I am ok now, Gavin told me to get a grip & the day at the seaside did me good.

Olgacatpissyswampypig said:

Thanks for your kind words you beautiful soul.
She really is a good woman & I’m lucky to have her. I am ok now, Gavin told me to get a grip & the day at the seaside did me good.

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Ah you are welcome I find a day at the seaside is always good for the soul....oh I mean by the ocean as Dickface puts it

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