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thelurker66 · Jun 15, 2024

noseyneighbour said:
He said... "It's been a while now..how are you?"
I've been feeling pretty s and sad about it all lately but pissed me off with his first sentence again...just like before! Meaning..."nothing has changed but u have had enough time and should be missing me and wanting me again...all forgotten"
Speaks volumes of the delusion and lack of acknowledgement and understanding.
I do miss parts of being with him but I don't want to back to more of the same.
The last message I sent 2 months ago said...don't message again as I'm sick of your s!
It's hard as I have been crying a lot and part of me still loves him. There are so many things wrong tho...and I've reflected on how controlling and hurtful he has been.
I just don't know what to do...I invested 2 years in the relationship...it's hard to just ignore him as I'm not a horrible person but on the same note I need to protect myself emotionally too.
So fing hard!!
Sorry waffle waffle as usual x

You are worth more than that nosey, I know I don’t know you, but you seem like a lovely person with a kind nature. Good for you for not falling into the trap and having feelings off not wanting him back! That’s progress! Previously you’d have gone right back!
One step at a time! And I always think, when it comes to exs you miss the version you thought they were in your head, but that person doesn’t exist their true self is the one they showed you the nasty side, the narcissistic side when the mask slips! They just love bomb you to get you on side and there is a name for what he’s doing now it’s called “hoovering” it’s where they hover around and try and suck you back in. (Google may explain better but put DV otherwise you’ll just be greeted by Henry hoovers

)
You are going to feel sad, it’s triggered you, that’s perfectly normal and understandable, feel your feelings, but don’t stay in them too long nosey, otherwise I’ll be making sure I try and drag you back out.
Stop apologising for waffling!

noseyneighbour · Jun 15, 2024

thelurker66 said:
You are worth more than that nosey, I know I don’t know you, but you seem like a lovely person with a kind nature. Good for you for not falling into the trap and having feelings off not wanting him back! That’s progress! Previously you’d have gone right back!
One step at a time! And I always think, when it comes to exs you miss the version you thought they were in your head, but that person doesn’t exist their true self is the one they showed you the nasty side, the narcissistic side when the mask slips! They just love bomb you to get you on side and there is a name for what he’s doing now it’s called “hoovering” it’s where they hover around and try and suck you back in. (Google may explain better but put DV otherwise you’ll just be greeted by Henry hoovers )
You are going to feel sad, it’s triggered you, that’s perfectly normal and understandable, feel your feelings, but don’t stay in them too long nosey, otherwise I’ll be making sure I try and drag you back out.
Stop apologising for waffling!

Sounded like someone else we know there with the feeling your feelings etc

true tho

That is so right about missing the version u thought or hoped there were or could be. So many failed promises...
Biggest thing for me...lack of genuine remorse and ownership. Every time i try and build myself up again he pops up.
You are right tho...he will turn aggressive very quickly if he doesn't get what he wants.
The fact he started the message as he did shows he either can't change or won't change.
Thank you...

xx

Standupifyouhateaimee · Jun 15, 2024

thelurker66 said:
@noseyneighbour i know you may just be partying the night away but you are usually catching up around this time (call me Martha at this point ) you ok?

I was too wondering where she was

Standupifyouhateaimee · Jun 15, 2024

noseyneighbour said:
I've had to work today was still logged on til about half 7!
So now catching up on jobs and my son came round to get his father's day present for his dad!
Need to get ready for holiday but I'm lacking motivation.
Oh and my recent ex messaged....
Partying the night away..as if...putting kettle on maybe
You ok?

Is for as if partying and putting kettle on

Hope you're ok lovely xxx

Standupifyouhateaimee · Jun 15, 2024

noseyneighbour said:
Sounded like someone else we know there with the feeling your feelings etc true tho
That is so right about missing the version u thought or hoped there were or could be. So many failed promises...
Biggest thing for me...lack of genuine remorse and ownership. Every time i try and build myself up again he pops up.
You are right tho...he will turn aggressive very quickly if he doesn't get what he wants.
The fact he started the message as he did shows he either can't change or won't change.
Thank you... xx

As always lurkey is spot on twinnie

I'm so sorry to read you've been upset and crying lately too

He is just trying to suck you back in and knows you are a good, kind person so using that to his advantage! It's true that we mourn what we think we would have with them when in reality it never will be that. You can tell by what he texts you, just basically saying right have you finished having your wobble now ! You have done so well, like you've done the hard bit. You have so much to keep you busy until your holiday, which you are worked hard for. You will have a amazing time and it's probably couldn't come at a better time if he is msg!! I truly do believe he is not worthy of you !!

Anyway have you got a brew, much to catch up on!
Xxx

thelurker66 · Jun 15, 2024

noseyneighbour said:
Sounded like someone else we know there with the feeling your feelings etc true tho
That is so right about missing the version u thought or hoped there were or could be. So many failed promises...
Biggest thing for me...lack of genuine remorse and ownership. Every time i try and build myself up again he pops up.
You are right tho...he will turn aggressive very quickly if he doesn't get what he wants.
The fact he started the message as he did shows he either can't change or won't change.
Thank you... xx

It sucks, but you have to learn to accept that there will never be a meaningful apology or ownership, they aren’t equipped to do that, so you have to accept that it’s a thing you’ll never receive which sucks, but you can walk away with your head held high that’s the true victory

allaboardthebirkeybike · Jun 15, 2024

Girls!!!! Girls.. girllllsssss.

I'm currently sat on the floor waiting for my fella who is stuck in traffic but I had to come straight here!!! I'm not okay!!!

What a night oh my god and @RosieJo she sang RED!!!

Omg I have 9% battery somehow because I only took my phone out twice. My bestie recorded pretty much the entire show though so I'll post some bits tomorrow for anyone who wants but omg!!! @RosieJo Can I come with you?

I feel like anyone who goes more than once has the right idea because there's so much going on. Best night ever!!!! Like ever!!!

allaboardthebirkeybike · Jun 15, 2024

And also I've always said it but honestly Swifties are thee most beautiful people on the planet. Because when I tell you I bawled all the way through Marjorie

but I had my 2 girls either side of me. Plus about 15 other stranger Swifties all huddling me like they knew my Nan was called Marjorie and that's why I was bawling

How embarrassing

but it was about 5mins of the most heartwarming things I've ever felt

noseyneighbour · Jun 15, 2024

Standupifyouhateaimee said:
Is for as if partying and putting kettle on
Hope you're ok lovely xxx

He's fed with my head again... my sister is saying meet him!
It's like "mummy..I've waited long enough for my sweets..is it time yet?"
He's so childish!

xx

thelurker66 · Jun 15, 2024

noseyneighbour said:
He's fed with my head again... my sister is saying meet him!
It's like "mummy..I've waited long enough for my sweets..is it time yet?"
He's so childish!
xx

Noooooooo don’t listen to the sister!!

noseyneighbour · Jun 15, 2024

Standupifyouhateaimee said:
As always lurkey is spot on twinnie I'm so sorry to read you've been upset and crying lately too
He is just trying to suck you back in and knows you are a good, kind person so using that to his advantage! It's true that we mourn what we think we would have with them when in reality it never will be that. You can tell by what he texts you, just basically saying right have you finished having your wobble now ! You have done so well, like you've done the hard bit. You have so much to keep you busy until your holiday, which you are worked hard for. You will have a amazing time and it's probably couldn't come at a better time if he is msg!! I truly do believe he is not worthy of you !!
Anyway have you got a brew, much to catch up on!
Xxx

That's exactly what he is thinking/saying... it's gaslighting...again!
I've got a brew...cba to go on other thread which isn't like me but maybe it's the distraction I need. Got a banging headache tho

xx

noseyneighbour · Jun 15, 2024

thelurker66 said:
Noooooooo don’t listen to the sister!!

I'm surprised and annoyed really after she knows everything now (and I mean everything! Including triggers that affect us both)
I have a feeling he's messaged her playing victim!

thelurker66 · Jun 15, 2024

noseyneighbour said:
I'm surprised and annoyed really after she knows everything now (and I mean everything! Including triggers that affect us both)
I have a feeling he's messaged her playing victim!

Probably they often go around family members to get them on side and play the injured party! But you stay strong

and stay the hell away, you’ve seemed brighter the past few weeks in your posts and coming out of your shell, so you’ve already come a long way in my opinion

Standupifyouhateaimee · Jun 16, 2024

allaboardthebirkeybike said:
Girls!!!! Girls.. girllllsssss.
I'm currently sat on the floor waiting for my fella who is stuck in traffic but I had to come straight here!!! I'm not okay!!! What a night oh my god and @RosieJo she sang RED!!! Omg I have 9% battery somehow because I only took my phone out twice. My bestie recorded pretty much the entire show though so I'll post some bits tomorrow for anyone who wants but omg!!! @RosieJo Can I come with you? I feel like anyone who goes more than once has the right idea because there's so much going on. Best night ever!!!! Like ever!!!

Ah I am literally so happy for you, you sound like you had the best night

couldn't of come at a better time

I do love Taylor (more her old songs for me) but I love her as a person and appreciate what a icon she is. If only we had more Taylors

anyway I entered the ballot for tickets on Blue light card for a ticket, obviously I knew I wouldn't win ( as never lucky

) but I thought if I did get them I'd offer them on this page

Hopefully you are on your way home or are home

xxx 🩷

Standupifyouhateaimee · Jun 16, 2024

allaboardthebirkeybike said:
And also I've always said it but honestly Swifties are thee most beautiful people on the planet. Because when I tell you I bawled all the way through Marjorie but I had my 2 girls either side of me. Plus about 15 other stranger Swifties all huddling me like they knew my Nan was called Marjorie and that's why I was bawling How embarrassing but it was about 5mins of the most heartwarming things I've ever felt

This is beautiful

Standupifyouhateaimee · Jun 16, 2024

noseyneighbour said:
He's fed with my head again... my sister is saying meet him!
It's like "mummy..I've waited long enough for my sweets..is it time yet?"
He's so childish!
xx

No don't listen to your sister nosey, not on this

if you meet him he will be more likely get to you. I am surprised your sister is advising that knowing what she knows

You definitely have been coming out of yourself more on here, you can see it. Now he's text and it's fed with your head, literally giving you a headache!! Not long now until your holiday where you can just shut off and relax.
Perhaps block him ? I know you probably don't want to do that as you are too nice but you have to think of yourself

Xxx

Missy · Jun 16, 2024

Here is the couch to 5K app to show you what it looks like

Missy · Jun 16, 2024

I started yoga with this lady and there’s a video for weight loss if you search it but it was really tough

have a look and give it a try even if it’s just to stretch a bit and allow some quiet time sat down

If you search for her all her vids show up

noseyneighbour · Jun 16, 2024

Is this aimed at what we discuss on here?!

Can't see time posted....

How fing dare you come on here and use our stories for your 'content.
Also how fing dare you insinuate me or anyone else is lying about our pasts. Is that not you "bullying"

This page is none of your business..it's not tik tok. SERIOUSLY-do OFF!

You are not being validated or getting any attention with your silly posts on TT. What's the point?!

Calling out lying and deceiving on TT 'creators' is not bullying. Misleading vulnerable people into spending money for their own gain is not acceptable either.

GO AWAY!!!

thelurker66 · Jun 16, 2024

noseyneighbour said:
Is this aimed at what we discuss on here?!
Can't see time posted....

How fing dare you come on here and use our stories for your 'content.
Also how fing dare you insinuate me or anyone else is lying about our pasts. Is that not you "bullying"

This page is none of your business..it's not tik tok. SERIOUSLY-do OFF!

You are not being validated or getting any attention with your silly posts on TT. What's the point?!

Calling out lying and deceiving on TT 'creators' is not bullying. Misleading vulnerable people into spending money for their own gain is not acceptable either.

GO AWAY!!!

This wasn’t aimed at what we discussed last night it was posted 2 hours before, but could be aimed at previous posts as I’ve not seen anyone discuss DV for a while on Aimee’s thread or here

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