Big essay coming but I’m knee deep in insomnia and intrigued by this whole debacle. So.. It started out as a page to share childhood trauma and the intention was to help others/help herself. Mel’s said it herself, she would love to quit work and be a full time ‘tiktoker’. You say you’re estranged from your family, yet you continue to use their stories to boost your ‘fame’. They’re not just your stories because you include their personal info. Technically you have your family to thank for your followers. Considering you think so little of them, why would you want them having the satisfaction of knowing that they’re the reason you’ve got a following on TikTok? When will you stop sharing your family’s personal memoirs to the world? When you get 1mil followers? 250k? Like, what’s the business plan? You’ve clearly got a price on it. This instantly will devoid you of any authenticity, when people see your motive is for monetary gain/status. You can’t say it isn’t either, especially since you’re now advertising the gifting. Everyone knew that was coming. This is why people are talking, not because they’re trolls, but because they can see it for what it is. You’re sharing stuff to the public, expect the negative stuff. It’s one of the reasons I wouldn’t want a TikTok account. If you can’t take the criticism, then stop?
People share their stories with you and they quite often get in return, ‘aw that’s awful, sorry about that’ and that’s it, it’s onto what you’re cooking for dinner? I’ve not once heard you ask questions to followers in lives or offer much in return, it’s always minimal and so focused on you. I thought you wanted to help people? In reality it’s social media at its finest and you wanting to earn a handsome pocket from it.
You’ve slated the mental health services available, probably put people off contacting them to be honest.
All of this over-sharing, shock factoring is because you know you need more than a couple of b&m hauls to get the ball rolling and get noticed. You’re clued up on algorithms and how long videos should be etc. No sane person that I know of would allow an estranged family member to use a social platform to recall such personal and private stories without some form of retaliation. Imagine they set up a tiktok and gave their accounts, because believe me they’ll see you in a light that you don’t see yourself in, every person you meet in life sees you in a different way than others do, or yourself does. It’s the way of life. Your closest friend will know a different version of you than say your boss at work, etc etc. You’re telling me Mel wouldn’t retaliate and dissect her families versions of events and make a tiktok?
It shocks me that she is so distraught that she’s being contacted by her brother (I’m assuming this is who she thinks is contacting her?) when she is constantly over sharing confidential information about family members to the world. It’s collateral damage. Speaking about her mother’s health online, what warrants this kind of behaviour? I wouldn’t dream of doing this and I have also had a rough upbringing (in some aspects, albeit different to hers). I find it unbelievable that she says she has the perfect life that she’s always dreamt about but then the next video will be a play about a scene from 2006 with her mother neglecting her? It can’t be perfect, if it was you wouldn’t let any of those negative playbacks enter your head space. You’d be too busy and happy with your perfect life to even reflect. So it’s either, a) not perfect or b) perfect but the stories boost the followers. This is why people are talking on here Mel, because there’s holes everywhere. People aren’t going to admire someone wanting a moral high ground when they’re coming through with 0 morals themselves.
Also, the lengths people will go to on that app baffle me… I have sons, if she knows her stepson is following her tiktok, then can somebody answer as to why she gets undressed on lives, exposing herself in a way that you’d never want your teenage son seeing? Sharing bedroom antics? None of it makes sense, none of it. Recalling a time when her stepdad spoke about her mothers breast size/hers yet makes comments on her own stepsons s/life and boasts to people that she has a pillow behind the headboard? All in the presence of her own stepson? Talk about history repeating itself. It you didn’t like that kind of talk, then why are you subjecting your stepson to the same?
If you want a solution to the msgs from your family, I’d say stop sharing personal information online about them, and gather up some decorum about what you do share, until that stops then you’re quite figuratively poking the bear. Oh but if you did, you know the page won’t grow? Maybe delete the app and carry on with the perfect life… I know after years of trauma that I wouldn’t be inflicting more onto myself. Make it make sense. You could of orchestrated your page in a way that didn’t divulge unnecessary information, you could of created a group for victims, you could of told your story without making it so obvious about who it was about, or share stories without including such irrelevant personal information, instead you’re acting with vengeance and involving the whole of tiktok. The people enabling you Mel are the ones who are loving the drama of the stories, people love a good controversy. It’s like a modern day ‘That’s Life’ mag. You can’t ask for a harmonious life when you’re digging up the corpses and letting them rot around you. Put a rotting piece of fruit in a fruit bowl, everything around it rots too. You couldn’t put a price on my peace, or a TikTok following for that matter. Todays society is ruined by the likes of that app. And ftr, I’m not one of these ‘trolls’ that’s on here to be mean or hurtful, I’d never come here and comment on your appearance, it isn’t me. But for real, I’d take the police advice and stop posting about your family’s personal lives, it’s harassment if you ask me. Your family must be so much more patient than mine considering how mean they are, I’d of had a knock at the door by now had I of shared stuff about my mum in the way you have. I wouldn’t dare. So many influencers on the app will have accounts of trauma, if you can’t get ‘TikTok famous’ by your personality alone, without dragging people into it that aren’t there to tell their side, or without their consent to share, then I’d say it’s time to think of another business plan.
) I feel inexplicably sad for her right now.
just needed to vent as it’s really unbelievable. If those kids are at risk then it’s so selfish to continue doing what she’s doing. As a mum, I could never bring my kids to the spotlight like this. It was inevitable though.
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