"his trauma is his and my traumas are mine and they was similar"
No they wasn't Melissa.
You didn't get your head pulled to the floor and kicked multiple times by your stepdad.
Punched in the face.
Pushed off the arm chair and nearly cracked your head on the cabinet.
Kicked out of the family home because you wanted to be with your fiance.
Had to sleep in the nearest working men's clubs shed for a week and find a tent to sleep on for a further 2 weeks in the middle of December.
Had to sofa surf at mates house for 3months. Where I got jumped a few times walking to the local town hall to help with housing. To be told they needed signature to prove my mum didn't want me yeah like thats going to go down well.
Managed to get a bedsit but was invested in druggies and alcoholics. Got a knife pulled out on me countless times.
When I finally got back onto my feet I saved up and get out.
Worked hard for my fiance and me to leave.
Got a home and we had our first born.
Got a job that didn't understand my mental health issues so got sacked after having a day off.
Tried to rekindle relationships with everybody outside the family only to have it all throw back in my face.
Was accused of stealing a phone off my dying grandma but it was our cousin yet it's ok I don't need a apology.
Wasn't told that grandma was getting worse yet you got told and picked up and taken there and looked after.
I had to make my own way there and was subjected to the cold shoulder.
Uncle called me selfish and humiliated me for not paying for your 21st bday banners because I was skint but to him I was getting pissed and drugged up because it's where I live.
I didn't have a 18th b'day or 21st bday as no one bothered to find me or ask Melissa or my mum how I was.
You had the family home to live in.
You could go to your other families house anytime like you said your auntie had a room ready.
Never had mother kicked you out.
You moved into grandmas house rent free as its mortgage was already paid.
Got pissed up nearly every night with your pisshead of a cousin and used that house as a piss head house for your cousins friends.
Your work made for your therapy and when they didn't want to promote you you threatened to take it higher so they give you a promotion. And then after 6 years you left because you called it a "toxic work place". Yeah sounds really toxic when a company's willing to pay your therapy. And keep you on despite having sloads of days off.
Your job somehow keeps you after you're taking the piss and saying it's mental health yet your ok tiktok and somehow you keep the job.
Got your first car off your father.
Got your teeth paid for.
Got your wedding payed off.
Yeah our paths are the same
She has such a warp thought process on her experiences.
She's mentioned that it was so "traumatic" at home yet after uni ran straight home to mummy and daddy
It's because you didn't save up or even thought about moving out if it was that bad you would leave but you took advantage of everything.
I didn't have the choice I was out on my ear and she seems to think I'm just playing the same tune even said" are Tom get over it no one cares you lived in a tent" like ???
Everything I have done I've done it from the ground up I had no choice to go up and work hard.
When my first born was born my mum or dad and Melissa didn't even come and see him.
Melissa got my fiance kicked out on Xmas eve.
Melissa used my mental health against me when I rung her up and cried about it on the phone. She ran to my mother and told it it's because I didn't love my fiance when she knew it's because I was struggling to find a meaning of living anymore due to having mental health issues and getting sacked because I had days where I couldn't do the job right.
Melissa says "go get therapy"
nice one.
The angers me that you think our lives were so similar.
And she would literally just say I was jealous
but it's the facts Melissa love.