Hi, an oldie here who has followed Mel on TikTok since she started (I’m a silent watcher) and I have never spoken to her in the comments section but I’ve seen it all .. I’ve also followed this forum from the very beginning so know everything that has been said. I was so happy to see the middle brother join the forum and to give us his side of ‘the story’ as I wasn’t fully convinced that Mel was giving a full picture .. bits of contradictions and what have you. Anyway, I thought I would put my two penneth in and add what I THINK (note think). Short and sweet, they had a sty childhood. Mel and TMB, they both appear to have really struggled and because years go by “recollections may vary”. It doesn’t have to be a debate on who had it worse, they both appear to have lived in a family who were bat s crazy! From what I’ve seen, heard and read, Mum had her own health issues, diagnosed with MS at 30, has a hearing impairment, is a drinker, is flirtatious, hates women etc etc. well, perhaps she does see other women as a threat (they are probably or Mum assumes, healthy and well) drinks to blur out her health problems which were from early adulthood and hits out at those that are close .. this shouldn’t have happened but I imagine she is a very bitter woman (I am not condoning her behaviour at all, Mel and TMB were children and none of it was their fault) Mum may be flirtatious as she thinks that’s all she has left to offer! Who knows? Birth dad seems to be a wimp who hasn’t got the balls to stand up fully for his kids but again, Mum appears to have ruled him also. Step dad sounds like a twit (left his own children to raise 3 that weren’t his) and probably shouldn’t have been in a family with any children at all.
It’s messed up for sure!! But messed up for all involved ..
Do I think Mel should be giving it her all on TikTok? Absolutely if she wants to tell her story but the narrative needs to change, she needs to really think about “her story” it isn’t just about her and how she was treated .. it’s much more than that .. I don’t know, I just think Mel talks about having a narcissistic mother but doesn’t try or give her viewers a look at the bigger picture and there does appear to be a much bigger picture .. I think it would be far more interesting to listen to the ‘bigger picture’ an insight into the family as a whole and how it affected all of them. I can’t comment on the eldest brother as he hasn’t spoken but do I think he abused Mel? Yes, definitely yes! at 9 and 13, they were both children and he was possibly already having “inappropriate thoughts” and acted on them feelings but again, Mel says she told Mum and Mum didn’t do anything .. it shouldn’t have happened this way but I think Mum was burying her head in the sand (mum needs therapy on a really deep level) Mum has definitely failed as a parent but did she mean to? Did Mel and TMB have a s childhood? 100 per cent yes! But there does also appear to be glimpses of normality .. Mel went to uni, Mum had to be involved in the form filling as my hubby and I did for our children .. I understand it’s only a small glimpse of normality but it’s there. So so much more to Mel
on TikTok and I for one would be interested to hear the whole story and to be more insightful with a nod to other family members.