I do not ever want to judge another mother as now i am a mother but i really can not but feel sorry for the little girl.
I used to work with kids and some of the children i taught remind me of Ela.
I absolutely love children, my culture definitely influenced that and we always treat everyone’s children like our own with so much love and care.
Some of the children i taught remind me of Ela, so quiet, uninterested and unhappy but i would always give them my 100% care and attention like they were my own.
The way they would light up and completely change into such happy little people but then as soon as the mums/dads of those children pick them up you would see the same unhappy expression would take over their little faces, always broke my heart.
Again i really do not want to judge but the way that little girl is always staring down into an glowing ipad screen, hair not brushed or any cute hairstyles done for her for school, this country sells such beautiful clothes for little girls and they aren’t even expensive but instead she has to wear the same cartoonish dress that looks like it is made for bedtime and regarding the meals, in my culture we love to feed our children to show our love to them, no not sugary stuff or processed foods thrown into an oven.
That tiny amount of ‘food’ given to a growing child, i am utterly shocked, if the school time given is that incredibly short, should she not go and have a word with the school or prepare her child a warm and healthy meal for her ready for after school as she is staying at home all day?
My one year old eats double the amount of what she feeds that poor little girl and everything i cook is always home made and healthy meals as i have no excuse not to because i am at home.
And in our cultures, daughters especially are so close to their fathers but their relationship confuses me so much, they barely interact. It is like they are strangers.
Although, even the relationship with mother and daughter is so strange, the only normalish interaction i have seen is Mine and Ela together or the other little girl, her cousin..
She got a dog which is great for a family and lots might not be so lucky enough to own one, so instead of making those ridiculous noises to the poor dog that doesn’t understand, why not take Ela and the dog for a walk instead of letting her child stare down into a screen in a dark miserable room.
She liked to show off she and her daughter wake up so early, so no excuses then to go before school?
And how can you go to Turkey and not feel guilty not taking your child to see everything and do lots of activities that are available, even in the UK there is so many things to do, even for free.
Personally the guilt would eat me up if i never encouraged my child to always be doing some sort of activity and not stuck at home staring at a screen whilst i too stare at one.