In other words some dog toys from B&M
And also if M "gets overstimulated we take him out the situation because it's just not worth it to us" You are a fing disgrace!! In other words we exclude him because we don't want him ruining everyone elses day getting overstimulated. If she had any clue she would be doing everything to try and prevent any overstimulating ie not having 12 folk round for Christmas. It's clearly all about her and showing off in PIP mansion.
Like you say make your own traditions, do things your way that is best for the children. Doesn't matter if it's different to other folks Xmas, as long as the little peoples are happy and enjoy themselves. Only thing that sounds different about that beefy fandangos Christmas is they don't wrap his presents!!