Oh my actual good god!! Let me start by apologising for putting this here but for some reason I can’t reply on the other group( the Tesco thing)
What the actual hell is going on with some people.
NN came on here late at night and was upset
Eitak responded in a genuine way
NN thought her response was s
Eitak wasn’t down to defend herself or argue ( her choice her right)
I tried to calm things down numerous times
Lurker tried very hard and was very kind and supportive
Birkey was trying to defuse a situation very diplomaticly
NN accused people of supporting lurker more than her - she thought she was not being treated equally??
And from then on it did not matter how kind or supportive people were trying to be towards NN she would not accept it - taking the nice posts and finding the negative- hats off to Eitak, lurky, and Birkey who bent over backwards to make NN feel valued and validated
I stopped commenting because I was getting very close to my limit at this point .
Eitak I don’t even think all this was down to your original response and I think you have done and said more than most people would have done to try and salvage a situation that certainly was not caused by you in malice
Lurky - I’m so sorry that you were made to feel guilty for being liked and supported when you was in the firing line and you should not be going anywhere! I feel bad actually for not jumping in to support you more, but I thought I mite make it worse!
Burkey your empathy and niceness and diplomacy skills
There is only so much that people can do when someone is determined to stay in a negative place. We are strangers on a forum are we not?
Jesus none of this is that deep !
Yes we can support each other up to a certain point - but if people need specific therapy than maybe here is not the place to be - we can all get touchy or take offence or piss someone off! It’s life I’m afraid! and although we should be mindful of others feelings none of us are here to be vilified because of someone else’s issues - we say sorry and if that apology is not accepted just how much justification, explanation, remorse are we expected to give? If you don’t think an apology is genuine - don’t pull more and more people in hoping to get a majority verdict - it’s not on! And that is bullying - pure and simple!
Frankly I am horrified that Lurky was made to feel like she couldn’t stay here because NN thinks people like her and supported her more!
Now before ANYONE decides to come for me - firstly I do not give 2 fs - I’m here for the laughs and Bingo
I do not feel any remorse for what I just said and I don’t do guilt trips either
I won’t be doing any back and forth about what I may or may not have got wrong
I like this funny ass group so can we please draw a line under all this sorry mess now
NN I really hope you can come back but more than that u really hope you feel better soon x