My dad totally ruined my childhood in everyway possible & I haven't seen him for nearly 20 years. He's a monster. But even I wouldn't do to him what Mel does to her mother. I took the power back by leaving him in the past. I worked through all the pain in therapy. I've got the support of my partner & friends if I need it. I can understand talking about everything if your deciding whether or not to get them out of your life but why would you get rid of them only to bring them back to life everyday? I don't get that.
I'm so sorry.
This is what frustrates me the most with Melvyn. There are people, like you and I and various other people on here who have all gone through some kind of childhood trauma which is what probably peaked our curiosity to her page in the first place.
But she's so riddled with negativity it becomes draining to watch, so god only knows what it's like to live with that hate that seems to run through her veins.
Melvyn cannot honestly say that she's dealt with her childhood because she most definitely hasn't.
I last saw my abusers at my Mum's funeral six years ago and will likely only see them again at my Dad's, whenever that may be. Hopefully he's got a good few years left in him yet.
But, like you, I don't dwell on what they did. Why would I? It would eat away at me. I haven't had justice, nor will I ever have it I don't think, but I've learnt to let it go. Probably the wrong phrase but you know what I mean.
I have a happy life with my partner, my son is planning his wedding, I'm extremely fortunate that I only have to work a few months a year and the rest of the time I do what suits me. Time is precious, not money.
But I'm certainly not dwelling on a pair of c***s who have no place in my life anymore.