Agree with this to the letter.Sam was pretty horrified when she said she would shut down all communications with girls for any man she was with and she in return wouldn’t be sitting on live with men when she was in a relationship.
It’s not a healthy attitude to see everyone else as a threat when you’re in a relationship. My man has respect for me and has boundaries so I don’t have to worry about him speaking to other women! He has a great relationship with all the women at his work. The more you have to control that the more you need to have words with yourself.
But the coercive control starts early as Steph is demonstrating with Korey. She told him she’d only go live with him if he put subs on. Then accepted sams uncontrolled chat fine just to show off. Does she even realise what she done there. Korey always says he will be back in 2 minutes. But he might as well say you’re ruining my vibe, my live and my life. do off.
I trust my partner and he me, that if a female spoke to him he’s doing it on a platonic level. You police your own s, not other peoples.
Steph displays controlling and coercive behaviour constantly, as well as emotional abuse.
I don’t think she quite realises that all this ‘what can a man bring to the table, I finance myself’ would be considered financial abuse if she was to say this to a partner.
She might be able to finance a £2k rent a month (with DLA, housing benefits, two guys maintenance, and a life insurance policy), but everything she has can be taken away. Her name is not to anything. Not even her ‘make up’.
She won’t ever be happy because she isn’t happy. She’s too busy proving to a bunch of strangers on the internet that she’s self made
Every one is jealous and this is the narrative she runs with. But in terms of psychological reason behind that narrative is, low self esteem, projection, need for validation, misinterpretation of behaviour, social comparison, competitive nature.
Steph have a little read of this (if you can manage):
‘It's important to note that the perception of jealousy is subjective and can be influenced by individual experiences, biases, and psychological factors. It's essential for individuals to reflect on their own feelings and motivations and consider alternative explanations for others' behavior before assuming jealousy. Communication and understanding can help clarify misunderstandings and build healthier relationships’