I feel like she gains from being like this, so it’s demotivating her from getting help. As we all know, people with addictions most of the time won’t recognise they need the help. My sister is an addict and has been for a good 4 years, lost her kids also. To this day she’s in and out of rehab.
If she genuinely does have these issues as we all see everyday she probably won’t recognise she needs the help.
She is clearly in denial & won’t get the help until not getting the help doesn’t get her nowhere.
I see signs of BPD in her as i also have it myself, I think one of these supposed “friends” she has needs to go to her house and actually give a do instead of egging her on on live everyday.
She benefits from the addiction on TikTok getting money, attention, etc.
This is sad but she is a grown adult and is in control of her own actions and until she wants the help she isn’t going to get it and we can’t help her.