I have gone back and decided this probably needs a **Trigger warning**Guess we will have to agree to disagree.
She’s a t, narcissistic etc people with learning disabilities are anything but that, they are some of the nicest people I have ever met
I think she is all what you say and more There surely is some developmental lapse or something though..? Shes very immature and childlike and has serious issues with her emotional regulation and reactions. I think there are some deep rooted issues with her..probably from the past that have led her to be the way she is. (Not excusing any of her s..)
Aside from that she is a classic case of NPD, she's spoilt, self orientated, immature, selfish, unable to love anyone but herself. Never seen any genuine emotion from her apart from her own woes...more attention seeking, seeking validation she didn't get from someone/people.
I...like a lot of you have 'a past' of varying sorts. Most of us have sought help and support. We have gained emotional intelligence/reflected in order for us to gain insight and function day to day.
A lot of us overthink and care too much if anything. We don't want to intentionally hurt other people as feel like we may have done by others. It's shapes you into a better person. I always say..I'm my biggest critic. (well..after my daughter lol)
I know I'm a good person. I want to care and support others with whatever that may be need. A worrier...stressed...anxious mess also..for sure!
Mainly due to her NPD, like others alike, see no fault in themselves and people enable this for fear of outbursts at being called out or told home truths. Or over compensating out of guilt.
"It's always someone else's fault"
Deflection, arrogance, self orientation, gaslighting, superiority, bullying, only looking out for their own needs to be met and so much more.
Most of us can spot these traits a mile off...mainly because we have unfortunately been in contact with them.
Personally, I do a lot of further reading as I need to understand things. Doesn't mean I can sort the s show of my life sometimes unfortunately lol. I also make mistakes...on here included. Never with malice though. I think some of us on here are very similar, have certain pasts/experiences and are here from sheer frustration and infuriation over A and the implications of what she does and doesn't do. Some looking in would think we are a bunch of bitches. I think its an easy assumption to make but far from the truth mostly.
Sorry for long message. Typing essays for me..is like therapy. You don't have to read/agree if you don't want to