please can you tell me if I’m being a ass hole plz
I’m absolutely fing head fed go hospital to say good bye to hear from his cousin that they decided to now have that Tracky thing put in his throat keep him alive he is a vegetable the 7 doctors told family this over weekend this why they said turn machine off his mum dad was ok with that because they said was for the best but cousin got in there heads said she will look after him this is complete fing madness it really is he never eat drink talk walk nothing he’s gone in my eyes that fing cousin doing this I had to walk out out of respect for his mum dad & brother I’m fing lost for words I really am and I’m so mad at same time why why why they letting the cousin get in their heads so many mixed emotions I just don’t know what to think or say but all I know I went to say good bye to my best friend
Would it be worth having a word with the doctor in charge? Maybe get them to explain the extent of the care and stress involved with looking after someone with minimal brain activity!
I’m guessing your good friend was too young to have written out a will… I understand the family and yourself are probably in a weird stage of grief right now…. But are they considering what their son would have wanted? Would he want to still be here being kept alive by a machine with little dignity?
The NHS are brilliant but we all know it’s not the same as it used to be…. What are they going to do if he ends up in a home being neglected! Not being turned enough so he’s suffering with bed sores? The cousin isn’t thinking things through! Caring for someone who can’t do anything for themselves is a hard and emotional job! She will have to give up a lot to care for him…. It’s not like she can just pop in once a day to see how he is it would be round the clock care!
It’s such a devastating situation but coming from someone who has worked in nursing homes and with end of life patients it’s not easy, Sometimes family emotions do more damage than good!
I know this is a sensitive question but is he an organ donor? Maybe even just showing them how he can still help people, would be another way to ease the pain of him passing? Knowing that he could give someone else another chance and a part of him still living on?
I’m so sorry if anything I say upsets you it’s not my intention! I just want to help because I can’t imagine the pain you are all going through!
Sending lots of love! Stay strong