Tam, I know you read here, so I will advise you. Take it or leave it. When I was young I had something traumatic happen to me. So much so that when I found out I was having a daughter I was distraught. As soon as she could understand I started warning her about the dangers. My trauma, fears, and triggers became hers. I began to notice as she got older she would get nervous when it was time to leave the house. I realized the monsters weren't outside they were in with her. It was me. I was giving her generational trauma. I stopped immediately and got therapy. I gave her back her childhood/Teen years and taught her to protect herself. I fear for the person who comes after her now. She can fully defend herself. What you are doing is wrong and it's concerning that you don't see it that way. SORRY FOR THE LONG RANT.