You and @big_beefy_beyonce are the ones who do more for education on autism than the one claiming her platform is for that.You are spot on, without having an inside knowledge of autism you can see it for exactly what it is. What were seeing is an embodiment of her emotions which are not aligned with her experience. Does she think these noises are going to go away? If anything hes getting worse as he gets older and his voice changes. Yes it will be hellish to hear a mans voice doing that but again what are her expectations here. Just as he will be a strong man needing to be using disabled toilets to be changed if she doesnt try a few times a year every year to see if he will ever be ready instead of brushing this off as something he just cant do.
Max spoils her style when she is out in public she cant be the celeb she feels she is. He is what she used to s off to various friends.
Nobody bats an eyelid when children are clearly disabled but they do look to the people theyre with if theyre not doing the correct things.
Steph wants the normal experience of wanting the child to sit and be read to on her knee or in bed, Ive said before she needs to think OUTSIDE the box, engaging with him is not the same as normal children, max may appear to not engage but he will be listening and aware of everthing. She could be reading to him with her voice playing the characters, using props. Even if she is getting nothing back from him in terms of eye contact - he is still listening. She wants the experience to give something back to her and that is where she is going WRONG! She is wanting something from it and because she isnt getting it - she isnt putting the effort in! It requires repeated efforts and attempts and creating an actual routine for it so that max knows when to expect them as well.
Most sen mothers know about routine and structure but she doesnt really know Max and its more and more clear as time goes on. I know him from what she shares, she simply just isnt trying because she is looking for a two person experience when Max isnt going to actively participate in anything for any period of time. He works off his own agenda and if she cant find away to include herself she is the problem!!
She talks about kids being institutionalised 15 years ago (I mean Lily was born 15 years ago and kids certainly weren’t chained to radiators ), yet she doesn’t have him out that house. If anything, she’s shutting max away and institutionalising him because she’s worried about a few darting eyes and how it makes her look.